He doesnt beat me, or abbuse me physically, not having or any interest in other girlfriends, but he`s lazy to look for a job, and 8 years in mariage and also 8 years Him not working. I had to leave school and make ants meat, took myself back to school and now working with a better salary.
He abbuses me immotionally, by always putting himself down and how he cant provide for His family. im now wrong to be the bread winner as He feels im disrespecting him. Maybe separation will do as im a rack immotionally.
2007-01-09 21:22:29 · 8 answers · asked by Tumlala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i guess i do feel sorry for him most of the time, and there are two kids involved 7 and 1 year old. i keep on telling myself that things will work out, but years kept on coming nd gowing without any change, instead He would have promises and promises. What bothers me is that He doesnt see us having any problems and people know Him as this Holy person who has a high position at church, but stil be like a lin in the House. everytime i talk about divorce He promises to change his ways. its like i said He is not abusing me Physically but immotionally and i dnt know if i can be able to want to fix our marriage cause He doesnt even want councelling. im even scared of filing for divorce, i dnt know if il have a courage of doing that.
2007-01-09 23:49:30 · update #1
He apparently needs some help. As his spouse you ought to try to get both of you to some counseling - preferrably Christian counseling.
Alot of prayer for God's intervention would be good, too.
You know, when a family works outside of the roles established by God in the Bible, it may function for a time...but not with all cylinders firing. You are evidence of this.
2007-01-09 21:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by BowtiePasta 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to ask him to leave or you move out until he can provide for himself.
Turn off the TV. Cut the wires from the TV. That's what keepss him at home. Without a TV he'd be lost.
Give him an ultimatum. 2 weeks to find a job or your on your own.
2007-01-10 06:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by JOHN S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that English is not your first language, so it's probably wrong for me to laugh, but 'make ants meat' was just gold. Thanks for the laugh.
As for your answer, it sounds like he's a bum, but a bum that you married. If he feels that you are disrespecting him by working, he's not only a bum, but a stupid jerk too, but a stupid jerk that you married. You did make that commitment to him, but if it doesn't matter to you, then I'd say leave the no good ignorant bum! Although, I wouldn't go around saying that he emotionally abuses you 'cause that's just too dramatic unless there is more to the story that we're not hearing about.
2007-01-10 05:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same problem been married for 32 years and i finally got a life and now he is ill heart problems back problems muscle atrophy deppresion ptsd and a load of other crap i am tired he is like a piece of furniture kick him to the curb it has only been 8 years not 32 or deal with the poor me act and ignore the show
2007-01-10 07:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think him feeling sorry for himself keeps you feeling sorry for him. You go girl! Be the bread winner! Advance yourself as much as you can. As for him, you need to decide for yourself if this is the life you want. If it is, accept it. if it is not move on.
2007-01-10 06:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not a "shelter" make him wake up! stand strong to what you believe as the responsibilities of a wife and a husband. dont be fool by his self pitty.
2007-01-10 06:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised how could you cling to this person for so long. Dump him. You can look after yourself quite well.
2007-01-10 05:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't be putting stress in my life. I'd of thrown his jobless *** out a long time ago.
2007-01-10 05:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋