Would you be able to forgive your best friend if she promised that you would be the godmother of her first and only child and she give someone else the godmother? Well My best friend of 9 years did that to me and it hurts so bad. She apologizes and everything but I just can't forgive her. I mean when she was pregnant I did everything for her since she was a single mom; I brought the baby clothes, went to doctor’s appointments, gifts and etc... I feel betrayed and I really can't forgive her even if I tried. Ever since she did that to me our friendship just changed totally. Now would you be able to forgive her, I mean really, put yourself in my shoes??? Even when we hang out I get mad all of the sudden when I start to think about it and this put a strain in our relationship and she have the nerve to say, I’m being immature.
2007-01-09 21:21:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
everybody here seems so "perfect" they seem so understanding any situation my god how can you guys do it (this people answering you question)...
well Ive put my self in your shoes and I'm starting to feel the same as you actually I would feel the same thing... and some people here seem to think like you don't care about the child that you only care to be a godmother well I understand how you feel I believe you love that child and your still good to that child but you can't seem to understand why she all of the sudden chose somebody else for such a special event... all I can say is that hmm talk to her but not in a mad way and tell her how you feel about this and ask her what happened why she made such a decision see what she says and I don't after that you can either accept the situation or still be friends but not so close or not be friends at all anymore... you think about it before you make any move and remember to talk to her about it.
2007-01-09 21:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not being able to forgive really means accepting to bear an unnecessary burden. Wanna shoulder that for all your remaining life? It's really yours to decide. Grudges take a very long time to wear off and poison your mind all the way to inner peace. I would start forgetting that asap, so that I can regain serenity. Life is a long and sad time to go when you stop at every offenses. On the other hand, is your friend definitely not capable of amazing you with her generosity in the future? Again, that's yours to see. People have a way to stay mean in memories when you never give them a chance to show who they really are.
2007-01-10 05:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! i had a best pal and she betrayed me even worse than yours. yours is no betrayal - since she didnt sleep with your dad. i was angry - very angry - but in the end , the anger was only ruining my life - while everyone else resumed normal lives. i say - forgive her - or else you will find no peace in yourself. i am sure she is really greteful for all the help and support you have given her. if your still hurt - just ask her why she didnt keep her promise. remember - not being the god mother is not the end of the world. just forgive and forget.
2007-01-10 06:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by CHAMaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rember that it's not about you it's about this child now. Reguardless of what she did. Yes it was messed up I agree but odds are you still want to be a big part of this kids life anyway. If that's the case you need to try to let it go. For the sake of the child.
2007-01-10 05:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable to be hurt in this, but remember the wee one(baby) in this. Be glad you she lets be around and enjoy the time. Love all the more. It would be hard yes for me to forgive honestly but id be the best "uncle" i can be, now go and be the best "auntie" this child can have and show the love and care you have in your heart!
2007-01-10 05:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by haarleyman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have two best friends, and feel privileged and lucky to have them. but the fact of the matter is nobody is perfect and no matter how well u know them, they will still disappoint and hurt u now and again, as u probably do to them as well. the best thing is to talk to her and tell her how u felt when she gave the role to someone else ... but don't waste a friendship on sth that can be resolved.
2007-01-10 07:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being immature, you're just hurt. Yes, I would forgive her. Not for her sake but, for my own sake so that I'm not carrying that anger around.
Now, that being sad, I would probably not feel as close to her or trust her as much as I did. But, I would make every effort to release it from my heart by forgiving her.
2007-01-10 05:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be glad that she allows you to see her baby, she could of put a stop to that.
2007-01-10 05:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were selfish to *expect * it. Perhaps you desired, but to expect show selfishness.
Thank your lucky stars she continues to be friendly with you.
2007-01-10 05:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋