whenever me and my boyfriend get into an argument...he pushes me around and hits me and says alot of nasty things to me. and then when the argument is over..which is because i give up trying to get my point across..he says sorry i love you..and acts like nothing just happened. and says that the reason why he did what he did was because i got him upset..so is it all my fault that he treats me like this ?what should i do?
2007-01-09 21:17:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a "no-brainer" - If he hits you now, he has no respect for you. He will hit you (again), hit your children (when you have them). He has some serious issues. 90% of abusive "hitters" will hit again. It is never your fault if someone hits you over an argument... Never! Do whatever you need to leave him. Even use the line, "It's not you, it's me." Do not break up then go back with him, it will make the situation worse. When you are ready to cut the line, cut it all the way through and permanently - no contact, no calls, no emails, IM's... Nothing. The sooner the better - Lewis. (guy)
2007-01-10 02:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by L M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him, dont argue just talk. Tell him there are issues about your relationship that you feel need sorting before you can be totally happy with each other. Why dont you suggest the both of you go to some relationship counselling. I do beleive that no man should ever hit / push a woman around. If you both totally love each other then it may work. Do you talk to each other, like friends? it can be hard as he is your boyfriend but i found with my fella that when we talk we get a lot more of our issues worked out. If one of us has a problem with something the other one is doing then we talk to each other (easier said than done i know)
i hope you get everything sorted out.
2007-01-10 05:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by sxe_gal_y2k3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is leave him.
He's having problems and he needs to sort them out. So that he can do that you have to step back. I'm not saying he's a bad person and you won't see me write that; he jsut needs to sort out a few issues is all.
He's showing signs of being abusive and has abused you somewhat already; it won't get better.
I wish I could tell you better or anything else, paint a nice Rosy picture for you, I can't I have to tell it like it is and that is how it is.
Leave him.
2007-01-10 05:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer is so simple. LEAVE HIM. He doesn't have the right to hit or touch you with this way, even if you are right or wrong on what you are saying! Even our parents don't hit us.. and you will allow a "stranger" to treat you like that? no way. He has to learn how to communicate... and it's time for you to move on.
2007-01-10 05:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by HeAvEnLy_PiNk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By staying with him you are giving him positive reinforcement that it is acceptable to hit you.
Once is very bad
twice has become a very nasty habit
if you allow him to do it three times, he is never going to change.
2007-01-10 06:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Vinni and beer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for your life baby gial.RUN as far from him as you can! Next time it might be a huge argument and the knife on the kitchen tabl might just be the perfect thing to shut you up!
2007-01-10 05:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
He does so because THAT IS WHAT HE IS! He would do it always! You may think on the contrary but it is so.
Life shows, that when a person is wise enough and analyses his/her relationship and ends the previous-the next boyfriend is always better than the previous one.
Respect yourself, don't date him!
2007-01-10 05:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Natalya Ch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT is not your fault you have the right to an opinion i've never had a boyfriend not allowed .(strict parents and i am a muslim)so i can't tell you wat to do but have you considrered talking to ur best friend and family? he hits and makes you believe that his actions are your fault but they are NOT. please talk to someone he could get worse and you will get more hurt physically and emotioally.goodluck and remember it's not your fault you didn't force him to do anything.
2007-01-10 05:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept what he is saying as the truth. Change your habits immediately and don't start an argument.
That you do not accept his words as truth, shows that you are not capable of trusting anyone. If you want someone to change, start with the woman in the mirror.
2007-01-10 05:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, its not your fault at all.
what you should do it turn him in, or get out of the relationship as soon as possible.
he is one bad day away from really hurting you.
2007-01-10 05:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by nate24_16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋