This is in reference to the question I asked last night (please see question on my profile) everybody wants to blast me. Well if he did not want to have a relationship with me, he could have said no and kept saying no. He is a good man and would be a great husband and a great father for my 3 kids. I deserve to be happy just like everyone else. Anyone else would do the same if they were in my shoes. I do not think I took advantage of anyone, he STILL could have said no, but he didnt. I really feel he still loves me and that one day we'll be together. If it wasnt for his wife telling him he couldn't I know he would still be calling me everyday. You can call me what you want but, if he loved his wife like he sayd he does he would not have slept with me. Can he still love me and thinlk about me the way I do him?
2007-01-09 21:03:27 · 14 answers · asked by Catina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you think it would help if I went to his town (700 miles) and tried to reason with him? Maybe its the distance that is ruiing our relatonship and not that he doesnt love or missme. PLEASE HELP
2007-01-09 21:12:07 · update #1
He has been home for 8 months now, I think if he just saw me again he mught realize that he misses seeing me and talking to me. I have not talked to him (that he knows of) for 51/2 months. I do go on a poker site under an assumed name and chat with the table he is at, it just feels so good to have some type of communication with him.
2007-01-09 21:19:37 · update #2
I am sorry to tell you this, but married men will take the opportunity given to them any day, and will say anything to get what they want, don't stoop down to his level, and whatever you do, don't go to his town, he is not worth it....you'll find someone who will love you and your children, just let him go....Good Luck.
2007-01-09 21:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets try to get rid of that wave of denial you have. A man will sleep with a goat even if he was married. A man is driven by two heads, sometimes the small one wins out and he may do something stupid, like sleep with you. He does not love you or he would leave his wife and he would be with you. He will continue to come to you as long as you give him what he wants, sex. Would you really want to be with a man who cheats on his lady? Think about it.
2007-01-09 21:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rick R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Honey you need professional help NOW. He doesn't want you at all. I read your posts and you begged him for an hour for sex. He thought he was at your house for his ride to come to get him and you set the entire thing up. GET THIS you had to harass him for an hour for sex!! He only had sex with you because you begged him, and if you were that great he would have stayed with you and not gone back to his wife. If you go to his town to try to see him, you may get hurt. I feel sorry for this poor man. Leave him alone he isn't yours, he is the husband of another woman and he is the father of their child.
2007-01-10 01:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your obsessed with him, yes if it weren't for his wife, but doesn't his wife have any rights? she loves him just as much as u do. he got what he needed from u, at the time, he is now home, doesn't need that anymore, gets it from his wife. do u expect his wife to just give him the okay? if u don't get out of this denial, and having expectations he will come back to u, u will never be able to move past this, and have a life. no most people wouldn't do this, most wouldn't begin any kind of relationship with someone who is married. its all in your belief system i guess, everyman is right according to his belief's, but most people wouldn't do this, they would have empathy and compassion for the wife, they wouldn't want the man to leave his family and destroy his marriage just to meet your selfish needs.
2007-01-10 04:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes you should go to his home that way you can make matters worse, give him and his wife a very vaild reason to call the cops on you, have you thrown in jail for harrassing and stalking this man and if you're real lucky, the judge will court order you to seek psychiatric help and you can have this on your criminal record.
2007-01-09 21:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
on account that starting to be an person i've got found out to think of formerly I open my mouth. Have I been indignant sufficient to tell somebody that I hate them? sure. Have i actually mentioned it? No. What a poor and hurtful undertaking to do.
2016-10-30 12:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that you were setting yourself up and I'm not sure what you could have realistically expected by purposefully attempting to seduce a married man. You state that he specifically told you he was a "happily" married man and that your intial proposes to have sex were declined. It's obvious to me that you played on a weakness and purposefully manipulated the situation to fullfill your wants. Trying to start a relationship with 1. somebody who does not want to ... 2. with somebody who is already committed and in love with another ... and 3. trying to build a relationship on dishonesty, is clearly a recipe for disaster. I do believe that you deserve to be happy, but I also believe that if you have to manipulate, coax, and seduce someone into loving you is not going to bring you happiness. He slept with you because you seduced him and preyed on his weakness, not because he loved you. I'm not trying to sound like a "hater" just trying to bring you some honest perspective on things.
2007-01-09 22:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by gg55 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what he can give you beside sex? think about it, he used you for sex, face it, and you are desperate to have a man, but you chose the wrong man, he would leave his wife if he loves you, so wake up, find a single man who loves you, you will be much happier.
2007-01-09 21:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by Discovery 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LADY.............You are crazy. How in the **** can his wife force him to stay with her, just like you can't force him to be with you. The only thing you will gain is a diminished bank account and a door slam.
2007-01-09 21:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by ...huh... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a stalker...what's your name so we can call the police? He has a kid..go find the man who knocked you up (sadly for him) and tell him to be the father to his sperm!
2007-01-10 18:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋