heya girls, am curious is this is marraige thing? see i have been married to my man 3 years now and there is NO foreplay, he just lays on his back and thinks of britian and expects me to turn him on,,,which i usually do,,,thing is he totally doesnt do anything to get me going, oh and when he does he usually treats my pie similar to a guitar,,,and we all know what you do with a set of guitar strings?....oh is there any orgasm fakers out there?
2007-01-09 20:50:07 · 19 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't fake it. I'm only cheating myself. If it doesn't happen then it doesnt happen. When he asks me why I didn't I tell him why. There wasn't enough foreplay, we've been over this so many times. Also I've lost interest in initiating sex because I feel like I'm going to end up doing all the work, and I'm not going to get anything out of it. I could be dry as a desert and he seems not to get it. It's like a whole different language for him. His response is more like but we've been touching, no I'VE been doing all the work, and as much fun as it is, I would like some too. You should guide him through the whole thing, and expect to do retraining every few weeks. Hints don't work either. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, signs don't work. best way is to be direct, and don't fake it, that's more important. Then you're telling him he's doing everything right when he's not.
2007-01-12 09:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean my husband of 3 years also just doesn't seem to care whether Im really turned on or not, he expects me to turn him on dress up for him dance for him etc etc but I never get turned on doing that, I might get a quick two minute rub in the wrong place then it is straight to it, the only time I seem to really enjoy sex now is when I have worked my self up all day thinking dirtly thoughts etc so by the time I get home from work Im gagging for it. otherwise I can take it or leave it.
We do have it at least every other day but because its all so one sided I dont alway orgasm or even feel like I want to orgasm and he wont come until I have so yes Im ashamed to say I do sometimes fake it.
I have tried talking to him about all this but he seems to take it as a personal insult and we end up argueing.
I just miss the passionate hungry sex we used to have when he really wanted me any time any where, he still does sort of but its me doing all the work and its getting to be more of a chore!!
If you manage to sort it out let me know how you did it and Ill give that a go xx
2007-01-10 05:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it.... without any emotion or fear attached.... teach him how you like to be touched, make a game out of it. Rather than him getting you going, do it yourself and let him watch... my fella loves this! Introduce a vibrator/sex toy of some kind that he can use on you to turn you on, that way you get the sensation you want without making him feel like he's not capable of doing it for you. Ask him if he is having any trouble with his sex drive? Don't pressure him too much though cos we all know how sulky men can get when their virility is in question..... If you manage to introduce some foreplay/sex toy action, you won't need to fake, but until then give him some encouragement by moaning etc..... The biggest turn on for him is that you're enjoying the act! I hope things improve.... I'm lucky enough to be with the best lover i've ever had, and our sex life is pretty healthy. We still have some pretty crap sex sometimes, but we talk about what we like and don't like. I also have a rule that if he orgasms, so do I.... so if the magic hasn't happened for me, he uses his fingers/tongue/etc to bring me to orgasm after sex is over.
2007-01-10 05:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sinead G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay is very important in any relationship, both partners need
that sexual bonding before the final act. I been married to my
wife for 21yrs now. I like to give my wife half to one hour of foreplay starting with kisses & gentle bites all over her body, but
not touching any vital parts yet. Then the time we make love she
is half way to orgasm, or she just comes straight away.
2007-01-10 05:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bill UK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg!! Yes there is foreplay!!!! I've been married 6 years now and our sex life is constently improving!! tell him what you want men are simple creatures and unless it told to them they have no idea that there could even be a problem!! i'd sort this one out sharpish if i was you!!!
2007-01-10 10:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by sabrina8589 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm male and couldn't imagine sex without foreplay. I love going down on my wife and she always returns the favour!
Sex without foreplay just ain't right!!!
Instead on sitting on his d!ck when hes lying on his back try sitting on his face and telling him what you want!!!
2007-01-10 06:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by chilihifly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i get lots of 4 play because i am selfish i do return the favour tho and fake orgasm yes i have once or twice he he he
2007-01-10 04:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by nicolefrenzy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i get plenty and always orgasm as my man knows how to treat me good!!!!!!!!
2007-01-10 06:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Very Sexy Vixen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he is a pretty bad lover... he needs to learn to be great in bed.
2007-01-10 08:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE foreplay here! I don't know why he doesn't? That is strange!
2007-01-12 04:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by Akela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋