Single Parenthood?

Question

I'd like to know some pro's and con's of being a single mother or being a product of a single parent family?

Answer 1

I was raised by my mother after my father left, and I have to say the best thing I got out of it was I learnt not to become dependent on a man. I see so many of my friends who get married and depend solely on their husband to provide for them, and then something happens and they split. It leaves the woman in a very vulnerable position because she hasnt worked for afew years as she has been raising children etc. It makes it much harder to find work if you dont have recent experience. So yeah.. that is a good thing, it taught me that while i can love and adore and share my life with someone, I can still be a strong, independent resilient woman.

Answer 2

In my own experience ... I was a better mother when I was a single parent. I am now married and I cherish and miss my single parenthood. What I loved about being a single parent is being able to devote all of your time and effort on your child with no distractions. She (my daughter) got all of me and the best of me. It was the happiest, most precious time in my life and I'm thankful for it. There is the myth that a child "needs" both parents, but I would have to disagree. All a child ever needs is love. My daughter is well rounded, smart, independent, sweet and a genuine soul. I am married now and my husband has taken her as his own. The only con I could think of is if I remained a single parent, is at some point in her life I'm sure she would have missed a father/daughter relationship.

Answer 3

Honestly, it's no Gilmore Girls. It's hard and very hard.

Physically, no one can take care of children 24-7, make a living, and parenting and still have a life - there's nothing left by the end of the day. No sick days.

Financially, income is less than the average 2 income family. This is probably true even for other single income family.

Emotionally, no support. Zero. You are the mother and the father. The loving/caring one and the disciplinarian. Wear 2 Masks.

Pro's: one can be in a marriage and still be in all the above situation. Nothing new. If one is in a sour marriage, then freedom is more important than any of these.

Hope this helps somehow.

Answer 4

well it depends on the situation if it is unsafe for you or your child there is no question get out

but if its a choice then there are more con's then pro's
you always have to be the taxi driver you cant take a shower when you know your going to get the mom i want to come home now call
money is always tight i don't care how hard you work
if they are young you need to pay someone to watch them
if they are older you cant go out unless they stay at a friends house cause you know they will burn down the kitchen
if you live in snow belt weather and the school closes you need to stay home
you don't have back up when you discipline and most times your x will contradict everything you stand for
this is just the start i can go on all day

Answer 5

There's really none that I can tell you of. What you need to do is to have a good talk with yourself, decide on what values you want them to learn and imprint that on them. Another good rule is to always be honest to the core. Other things to do is to communicate so that they understand you and you understand them. Never shout orders, aske with a Delsin could you please pick up your coat thank you dear type of thing. This is how I do it.
I'm practically a single mom even though I am married, my husband is not the kid raising type.
All in all it is nothing but attitude as I have come from a single parent family and that is the best I can tell you. It depends in how much you want to put in, remember you only get out as much as you put in in the first place.

Answer 6

kids need two parents. one parent doesn't have time to devote to the child. the parent likely has to work, so the child is in day care. with 2 parents, it is possible to have a parent around nearly always. two opinions can be shared about decisions that may be necessary for the child's best interest. i see a lot of single parent kids sitting in front of a video game (as a babysitter). family time with both parents is much better.

Answer 7

if you have a chose, don't do it. think, think, think, and think again before you want be a single mother.