How does a person deal with NON-STOP YELLING from another person without standing up for themselves?

Question

Remember the person cannot stand up for themselves and they are constantly being yelled at.

Answer 1

Daydreaming. Let your mind escape. You're free. Or you could mentally duck and let the words pass above your head like flying birds. They cannot touch you or harm you.

Answer 2

This sounds like a parent is driving you nuts and they don't dare want you to turn there back on them.I suppose anyone can have that effect on you.If its a parent all I can say is that your screwed anyway so you might as well fight back.Thats the way I felt when I was that age.When it was a gilrfriend.I was sneaky and left.Like I let her say or should I say yell what she wanted to yell and thought in my mind "Ok what shes saying is really pissing me off but I'll find a way to walk out.When she needs to go where you're out of site for a moment then walk out the door or just say I gotta check something outside.Make up something then don't come back.Of course if its cold outside you better have a place to go.

Answer 3

If setting limits doesn't work (if the victim set limits on other people's abusive behaviour that would be consistent with the victim standing up for herself (or himself) then the victim will need to cut off ALL contact with the abuser. If the victim lives in the abuser's home it's time to MOVE OUT. The abuser will not change without any insight into his or her problems. As far as they are concerend they are getting what they want so why on eath would they want to change (NO MOTIVATION).

The abusive person need to accept:
1. That they are abusive
2. That their personal relationships will deteriorate - perhaps even cease to exist altogether - if the abuser continues to abuse. In short, they need to understand the consequences of their behavior, and accept responsibility for the damage they have done.
3. The abuser needs to WANT to change the behaviour

I strongly suggest that family psychological counselling would be the way to go - but this can only work if the abuser accepts that they have a problem and wants to change (anger management issues, whatever).

Till then, just GET OUT OF THE WAY - FAR FAR FAR AWAY. Life is too short.

Answer 4

Anything which communicates "I don't need to take this crap from you" is probably a form of standing up for yourself. In a way walking away communicates this, although in a more passive way than starting a confrontation.

So either you say this, or you stand there and get sand kicked in your face.

Answer 5

Teach yourself to tune them out - it's just noise and all you have to do is look attentive and let it wash over you like waves on a massive rock, then after a while it will go away, and you can get back to what you were doing before you were so rudely interrupted!

Answer 6

What I try to do is bottle up the rage and try to zone them out (but everyone has their limit) And then try to turn the anger into something constructive like biking or such. Losing your temper usually ends up badly....

Advice from a redhead

Answer 7

Walk away! I had a yelling sister - she never quit. I kept hoping but it never happened.

Answer 8

Walk away and if that doesn't work have someone else stand up for them i.e. Big brother or Big sister or Big friend.

Answer 9

This is ABUSE, and you definitely CAN stand up for yourself.
Call the authorities!! And, do it NOW!!

Don't listen to anyone who tells you to just stay there and take it.

Answer 10

By not allowing the behavior to continue. Also, by telling them their is nothing with your hearing.