Can someone give me exactly what would happen....?

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If I called the cops on my mother?

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I Live In America
I'm Fourteen

Answer 1

pay no attention to the idiots that didnt read your other question.

this is a rough situation, there is no happy ending to this. what you should do is contact your local Children Youth and Families department, but ONLY AFTER you collect evidence. if at all possible, set up a webcam to capture these instances on video, if this can't be done, invest in a portable tape recorder to carry in your pocket or purse or whatever, and make sure you have it on hand and operating whenever you think a situation will escalate to the violent. calling the police or CYFD without this evidence just leads to a "he said, she said" situation in which neither organization will be able to help you much. you need evidence first. video is best, but audio and photographs of bruises and/or cuts will be sufficient too.

lastly, do not feel guilty. just because your mother grew up in poverty doesn't giver her the right to treat you like crap. she may be your mother, and you may always love her, but you don't have to like her, and you don't have to tolerate her abuse.

Answer 2

Jenna this is tough advice for me to give becasue I went through a simular issue growing up. If you call the cops they will probably remove you from your home and place you in a foster home until they decide if your mother is capable of taking care of you. This can go either way! If they feel she is capable then you would both have to do some counseling and she would also have to do some anger management classes as well before they place you back in your home. Where it gets tricky, is when you go into foster care or a group home. You can end up in the perfect place for you or in a nightmare hell hole bouncing from place to place and facing more abuse. I would say if you feel that you are in danger of being seriously hurt it is probably in your best interest to call the cops. If you are almost eighteen then hang in there and bolt as soon as you legally can. If you choose to run away then you make things worse on yourself. Sometimes it's not the best idea to get the cops involved but in my case, it was! But I do know a few kids that did not have it so good! There is no exact way for the system to handle this type of situation. If you have a father you might want to speak with him first but beware, there is a good chance he might side with your mom.

Answer 3

I think you need to ask another question: What WILL happen if you DON"T call the cops? Or at least social services?
It sounds like the violence in your household is escalating. At 14, you have about 3 - 4 years before you can really make it on your own.
If you get too big and start fighting back, would your mother switch to the other kids? Or would she call the cops on YOU?

Answer 4

If I were you I would talk to an adult I trust - your father, a teacher, that sort of thing, about your situation. Be totally honest & open with them about it, what happens, how you feel etc. It sounds like your mother needs help so don't feel bad for telling someone about it all.
You need to do something about it & when you do, know that you are doing the right thing for all those concerned, even if it is a very hard thing to do.
You have to talk to a responsible respectable adult about this though & the sooner you do that the better. Good luck.

Answer 5

If you call the cops, more than likely she'll be charged with child abuse and maybe arrested. After that, the Division of Family Services would probably step in and depending on the severity of the abuse, seek a more positive environment for you to live in or a different solution. If you don't feel comfortable calling the police, call a child abuse hot line, you may be more comfortable talking to them. DON'T LET THIS ABUSE CONTINUE because it may get worse or scar you mentally for life.

Answer 6

your other question made me wanna cry. i am so sorry.

you and your siblings would be taken from your mother while an investigation took place. if your mother was deemed unstable to care for you fostering would take place, but this could be with your family members, not necessarily another strangers home. if she goes through counselling and seems ok, you can be placed back in her care. you could always ring the police from a pay phone as an anomymous caller and ask them. once you know what would happen you could ring and identify yourself if you choose to. that is what i would do. also it might be wise to find out other options by talking to teachers, councilors, friends parents, etc. you could also try to get in contact with your father. i hope every thing works out for the best for you and your siblings and that you and your mother can have a healthy happy relationship. best wishes.

Answer 7

You sound like you are in a country other than America (due to the broken English). If you are here...call. But I cannot say what would happen anywhere else.

Answer 8

i am so sorry jenna. i think thats the thing yu ought to do.
call the cops and they will figure out a way.
yur mother is doing a wrong thing.
yu dont have to live under such torture.

Answer 9

If you called the cops on your mother, the cops would probably show up.

Answer 10

it depends on how old you are they may place yo in a better inviroment whats the situation maybe in the long run it would be netter for you god bless and i hope that everything works out for you