He change. He never wanted to be around or do thing with the kids or I, but to find out he was hanging around with my sister daughter. The signs were there, I just choose not to belive it. I still wonder what I might have done for him to do this **** to me. I did everything for him. I always put him first. We are still married today, but not living together. I did ask him for a divorce, but still have not got it. Everybody tells me to get it, but why should I? I am not the one that screwed up. I belived in the vows that I say in the eyes of God, For better or worst. I just can't seem to move on. How do you forget about someone that you gave your heart to? I still love very much and I just don't know how to move on.
2007-01-09 19:21:01 · 5 answers · asked by leyla r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is about you not them.
About you letting go. Divorce is only a formality. No hurry. You can be divorced but walk around with a wounded heart.
So, please be kind to yourself and don't blame yourself any more. This event is in the past or soon will be.
You don't need to forget him, don't need to stop loving him, the technique is to see his suffering in what his doing. He wants to be happy, but choose a way that's not good for himself or others in the long run. Do that often, then you can progressively understand his pain and love him even more. Then you will slowly let go. Be gentle with yourself.
The good you've done and the love you've given means you are capable of positive acts. Some day you will do it again.
Since you mentioned you loved him very much. Maybe/Wish that this technique will work for you to help you move on.
http://www.care2.com/channels/solutions/bms/1227
With loving kindness. Best Wishes.
2007-01-09 19:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Cappuccino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you gave too much, giving too much to the wrong person, they will take advantage of that. If he was not doing it for you he should not get it in return. I believe in vows, even though I am not married but I think you should make an exception. You married an asshole not only did he cheat with a family member, he does not spend time with your kids, that should tell you what kind of person he is. People like that will not change, do you really want to spend the rest of your life like that? You deserve better.
2007-01-10 03:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try thinking with your head instead then and it may help you forget this wanker. You should hate him if you think with your head... HE CHEATED WITH HIS NEICE?? Blood or not, that's his effin neice! What kind of a wanker does that? Get some respect for yourself and for other women, don't allow this piece of dirt to have one more second of your time. I'm sorry but if you do, then seriously, you deserve it. Harsh but you have to be an idiot to even consider having anything to do with someone who treated you this way and you must be a glutton for punishment. Sometimes you have to look at the reality of a situation and the reality of this one is that he didn't care less about you and probably treats a dog better so should you want more of that, you're a silly girl
2007-01-10 03:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He slept with your niece! Dump him quick and when you get the divorce papers, sign them with your eyes closed to not back out.
2007-01-10 03:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by saturn man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you with your sister, that should be reason enough to get a divorce, he's a loser.
Find a real man....Good~Luck.
2007-01-10 03:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋