2007-01-09 17:30:21 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you should have known from the start that you were never going to really have a relationship with him. If he doesn't respect the marriage with his wife do you really think he's going to respect you? I would suggest you move on with your life and find yourself a man who's not married. Remember that what goes around comes around and i dont think you would like this done to you if you were married. There are so many men out there why go for a married one. Good luck.
2007-01-09 17:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by LD82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In love with a married man and you don't know what to do?
What can you do? Look at all your choices!
Wait by the phone until he is available.
Hide in the shadows so you won't be caught.
Believe him when he tells you that he really loves you.
Lie to your friends and relatives about the great
relationship you have.
Feel horrible when you are alone for the holidays.
THAT is what you are expected to do when you are in love with a married man!
You don't want to lose him. He is not "yours" to lose......someone else already has him......
The sooner you understand that you are in a no-win situation the sooner you can move on to a healthier relationship.
Good-Luck,
C-F
2007-01-10 01:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for these people here to say what they say. They might not realize we have no choice as to who we fall in love with and we have no wish to hurt his wife. They will understand if it ever happens to them and they won't be so smug then. Most of us don't consciously go after a married man. Suddenly, love is just there. I can't tell you what you're supposed to do. It will probably eventually end badly for us both but I wouldn't trade a minute of my time with him. No matter what. There is only so much time in life. Every day is a bonus. It's LOVE! And I can't regret that. Many people don't get to experience true love in their life. Just enjoy your love one day at a time. Don't think about losing him. What will be will be.
2007-01-10 01:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you going to be a home wrecker??? stay away, you will not only just cause probs with the married couple, but she wont forgive you in a hurry. find a man that aint married gee i dont know some women cant find there own men, if hes cheating on his wife what makes you better, dont you think that he will do the same to you if he leave her for you. I dont mean to be harsh or anythink but please dont do it, he not the only man out there.
2007-01-10 01:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Bex 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with you. You didn't mean to, but it's in your control to do the wise thing - thinking for everyone's benefit.
The children, the wife, your family, friends, and the fabulous people you will meet after your time not being consumed by this person.
Wish you all the best.
2007-01-10 03:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Cappuccino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this scenario and learn from it: imagine that you are actually with this married guy. you end up getting married, pop a few kids out and everything is happy. soon, you find out that there is some chick out there who is in love with him and tries to seduce him away from you or whatnot. how would YOU feel? if you know what's best, you had better find someone else. and god save you if you try to take him away from his wife because it will happen to you in the end. my advice: leave him alone. he did not marry you. he has a responsibility to his family as well as wife. be smart and find someone else.
2007-01-10 01:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's married ! Have a little respect for his wife, be a woman and say no more ! If he wants to be with you he will leave his wife. Why would you want to share a man in the first place ?
2007-01-10 01:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you have fallen in love with him, and that is the most dangerous thing you have done to yourself. Come to think of it this way. One day, if his wife finds out about the affair, or if anything happened in his life that will make him want to check out his life, he will just dump u like a hot potato. Dont tell me he wont. Right now, the affair is just for him to have an "extra-curricular" thing. When he is bored no more, then u will just have to forget not wanting to lose him, bec lost he will be!
I know one day u will tell me.. "I called to tell him I dont want to go on with this affair no more but he insisted on going on". And my answer will be this: "honey, in that kind of relationship, where a man wont even be responsible for u when u get pregnant or get sick or whatever, u dont even have to tell him u want the relationship to end. you just end it by not entertaining him."
In short, he aint in love with u when he insisted on having u back; he was just acting how a man would act for a woman who is asking for reassurance. bec it would also mean reassurance for him to have a good extra marital sex to make his marriage/life less boring.
Just think this way: If push came to shove, will he choose u or his wife? I bet, more tha a 100%, he will choose his wife. ur just like ketchup to a burger sandwich with already the mayonnaise and he pickles on top.
liek what i always tell my friend who is in same affair: In any relationships, for as long as a woman is agreeable to it, it will be so easy for the man to go on.. but if the woman know how to say NO, then nothing will happen. You as a woman wants it to happen, so it happend. And that, i assure u, ur married bf also knows by heart. and that is the thing he uses to take advantage of you. a woman too desperate to get on a relationship with a married man.
now lets look at the upside of things: If u want to be a mistress, then do it for urself. Ask ur married bf to rent u a nice apartment, give u monthly allowance to live comfortably more than u already are. and if u cannot ask for anything from him, then what more can i say? Men's easy prey are those who are that weak and stupid.
Sorry for the rude words.. but I have to let u realize how bad a situation u r into. its either u dig out that wound and let it heal, or let the wound stay in ur body and let it rot, rot, rot until a bigger portion of u rots....but at the end of it all, u still will end up digging it out for cleansing.
2007-01-10 02:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got to remember this and I'm not trying to be rude but you can't miss what you never had because honey he wasn't yours to start with so move on and find somebody that can give you their all.
2007-01-10 01:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to school, grow up, learn how to spell and get a life. If your having sex with him you are being taken advantage of.
2007-01-13 21:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋