I asked a guy out and he said no. I had everything that I was going to say to him planned out and it all just blows out the window when I see him. I had it planned if he didn't talk to me and he isn't. Plus, it is 2 days after the rejection and I was starting to think that he isn't such a bad guy because he didn't tell anybody (if he had I thought I would've heard something by now). Right after I thought about that, I turned around a heard one of his friends telling someone else. I feel like just saying, "Ben, stay the h*** out of my buisness and mind your own d*** buisness!" He and I were friends before, why can't we be friends now??? What do I do???!!!
2007-01-09 17:13:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Please tell me what to do about Ben too!
2007-01-09 17:24:32 · update #1
There is something good about being ruthless as myself. They talk back at you, slap em'. They hit you, hit em' with bat. They come after with knives, get the guns. And if they get the guns... they better run for their lives.
What I mean is, if he hurt you or made you angry, well strike back, but harshly, make him regret it. *grin*
+Joker+
2007-01-09 17:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath - maybe several deep breaths - and relax. Even if you really like that one guy there are tons of guys out there. Tons. So one guy said no. You wouldn't want him to go if he didn't want to, would you?
Do you know why he said no? There is a difference between "no, I'm not interested in you" and "no, I'm busy that night". He might not have known what to say either and now he's embarrassed or doesn't know what to say to you.
He may not be talking to you because you're not talking to him. Why not just nod hello or say hi next time your paths cross. Be friendly, act like you always did before, and don't bring up that he said no and you probably will be friends again.
Or you could write him a SHORT note. Say something like "I had everything that I was going to say all planned out but it didn't come out the way I intended" OR maybe, just "hey, I still want to be friends if you do" and sign your name.
So what if someone knows you asked him and he said no. What difference does that make? It just means he said no. It doesn't say anything about you at all except that that this one guy said no once. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or you'll never get a date or anything like that.
2007-01-10 01:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by flyingrosetb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After a rejection there isn't anything you can do. You give yourself a pat on the back for taking a risk and sticking your neck out. Give yourself credit because the next time you want to do something similar, you will have some experience.
As far as this guy goes....you KNOW he isn't worth your time now. He had his chance with you and he blew it. You made your interest clear....and he let you know that he isn't interested.
You feel like raging at him now and that is quite understandable, but it really wouldn't change anything at all. Keep your dignity in check and let this blow over. Give it a few days. He might avoid you for a while because he might feel uncomfortable.
On one hand u want to tell him off, and on the other hand you want to still be friends. Was he kind or mean to you when he rejected you? You might want to rethink who you want to be friends with.
Good Luck,
C-F
2007-01-10 01:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You don't need to do anything. No one is asking you any questions. No one is attacking or threatening you. I wish girls would just say no instead of giving a nasty run around. I think you are lucky in that way. Either he made the right choice or he didn't. If he did, good. If he didn't, it was his mistake.
About telling someone you asked, that is shocking but I suppose it was his right. Maybe you should be happy that that sort of person didn't say yes!
2007-01-11 00:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was such a jerk in the first place he's not worth it... if he's not ready to treat you like you should be treated and not going to hear you out and blows you off like he did ignore him and don't give him the time of day. find someone who'll treat you the way you should be treated and listens to what you have to say...
2007-01-10 01:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by howellgirl54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The voices in my head can't agree on what to tell you. Some of me wants you to lash out in a spiteful fit of rage and vengence. While still others within my brain would just drop it. There are those who would become more persistant and some who would cry bitterly in agony for hours. Just do whatever the loudest voices tell you to do.
2007-01-10 01:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u told him how u feel than u will probably not be friends any more. it is that way couse he's looking at u at a different way now. But try,there are always chanses..it depends of the guy but fr or not u wont have the same relationship never again
2007-01-10 01:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Monica.P. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. Anything that you feel that you need to do will only make it worse. Let it die down and eventually no one will care in a few weeks.
As for Ben, forget him, he seems like a whiny wimp who needs to get attention from your misery. In a few weeks everything will die down and he'll start getting off his hind horse and coming back down to earth.
2007-01-10 02:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll get over it after time.
Just wait a few days. Don't rush him to become your friend again, cause guys like to do stuff out of spite. Good luck! <33
2007-01-10 01:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Good Samaritan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him, say: ok, i know you dont like me like that but that doesnt mean you have to avoid me like im some freak right? look i wont look at you that way and i just want to be back into just being friends. can we just act mature and do that please? I really liked you as a freind.
try something like that., just a suggestion.
2007-01-10 01:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mark F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋