The secret is not to worry what they think of you. We worry so much about what someone might think of us, that we talk ourselves out of meeting new people who might actually like us.
Tomorrow you commit to youself, to find one new person you've not talked to and just go up to them and say hi, ask them how they are.
The more you just try, forget doing it perfectly, just look up, look around you and great others, say hi, if you hear someone you'd like to meat talking about something you too are interested in. Introduce yourself, say I heard what you were saying and then make some comment about waht they were talking about that shows what you know, or that you too are interested in what they were talking about.
Failure happens to everyone when it comes to connecting with others. You just let it go and try agian.
I use to be afraid to, but finally just forced myself to try and it go easier and easier.
Realise most people, even those who seem so relaxed and together find meeting and talking to new people hard at times.
2007-01-09 16:49:39
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answered by Mountain Bear 4
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Most shy people don't have that in them. I know from experience.
The best way I can suggest is to buck up and reach out to someone. Make a joke out of your lack of self confindence, its an ice breaker if you are in a group setting. Its hard to make friends, when we think about all the negative things that could happen. Just lift up your head and say "something wonderful is going to happen today". If you want to be different you have to be willing to make the change from inside. I did and have a ton of aquaintances and a few really good friends. =o)
(You can read about boosting your self confidence online too, just put in "How to boost your self confidence?" in a search engine like google or dogpile and you'll get a ton of information!)
Good Luck!
2007-01-09 16:48:26
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answered by ebay_convert 5
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Hey - self-confidence comes from within. No one is better than anyone else. Every human being has a gift to offer. Being aware of that gift makes all the difference. Sometimes just doing something nice for someone will boost self-confidence by putting a smile on someone's face. Makes you feel great....!!
Just remember when you approach a stranger - try to make it about THEM and not about YOU.
2007-01-09 16:47:47
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answered by longhats 5
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well I use to be really bad at talking to strangers but I finally convinced myself that even if I did make a fool of myself, theres no sense in swallowing in self pity for the rest of my life. What's been done is done and if they really are strangers, in time, the won't even remember what happened or who you are.....at least i keep telling myself that and now though sometimes still nervous became more willing to talk to strangers.
2007-01-09 16:49:24
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answered by Stella 2
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i had the same problem and was so scared even saying hello to a stranger and i was 16 it was embarrasing then i got a job in a supermarket on the checkouts and you have to talk to the customers as soon as my boss picked up on it he took me aside and we did role playing it was fun and after a while doing that i was not quite as nervousit really helped try it with family maybe. or the mirror it helps. good luck with it.
2007-01-09 16:49:00
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answered by ♥~*~♥ЌẮ§€¥♥~*~♥ 3
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start by nodding your head to people you see on the street,say good morning to perfect strangers or afternoon in time you will get the same back after a while you,ll be talking to any one you choose too.politeness really works with a smile. have a great day,and smile,its really catching
2007-01-09 16:53:01
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answered by johny1punch 3
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write down a list of things to say..general questions and topics you enjoy in your life. Walk up and talk about those.
FORM: Family Occupation Recreation Motive. ask a question pertaining to all these any the stranger will be your best friend forver.
2007-01-09 16:46:28
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answered by TONY 4
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Well I don't know how old you are but most anyone can do volunteer work. Or get involved in sports. You have to get out. Self confidence will come in time. You'll see. Smile and compliment others and you will get the same in return.
2007-01-09 16:45:35
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answered by Anonymous
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2016-10-30 12:11:24
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answered by ? 4
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well it is not that hard if you mean "GIRL" by stranger then yeah it is not that hard try to find out what they like and maybe let them do the talking.
you might be surprised at your results and may even find yourself with a date, best of luck to you man and don't chicken out.
2007-01-09 16:46:40
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answered by Anonymous
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