I just found out that my soon to be husband has been cheating on me with my sister...they do not know that i know this but i came home from work the one day and my sisters car was at my house that me and my fiance live in and i thought she must have just gotten there to see me as i got off work....well i walked into the house kinda quietly and i heard moaning coming from our guest bedroom so i tipped toed back and they were in bed having sex together..i wanted to bust them but i just walked away and left the house and drove off for an hour and came back and when i did she wasn't there and i just pretended nothing ever happened....becasue i love my fiance he is amazing and i know he cheated but we have been together forever and its like 2 weeks till the wedding and all that planning and everything....i just don't know what to do...?
2007-01-09 16:35:18 · 20 answers · asked by BabyBlues 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have decided to not marry the JERK....i pretty much thinking of ending things anyways...but hearing it from others makes me feel better.
2007-01-09 17:43:49 · update #1
Don't marry this guy. Cancel the wedding ASAP. Any man who has sex with her sister is NOT a man. Come on. I can't believe your thinking of going through with the wedding!!! This is going to hit you hard and when it does you WILL see him for what he really is. Your marriage will be doomed before it even gets started if you marry him. Screw all the planning and everything for the wedding. We are talking about your life here, your happiness. I hope you don't go through with this wedding. You will forever regret it.
2007-01-09 17:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay think of it like this you marry this guy and then one day you come upi with some sort of STD or something or you have kids together and he leaves you later down the road what are you left with then??? You might love him but do you really think that he loves you ??? if he loved you he would have never of cheated on you aspecialy with you sister or and family member for that matter and to do it in your house!!! come on now you desreve better you desreve a man that is going to be faithful to you and charish you always not some horndog that going to fu** anything that comes his way. and for the planning of the wedding for get it I know that planing for a wedding is hard, stressful. and is alot of work but so is a marrage and if your going to put yourself in a marage that isn't true then you are not giving yourself what you deserve don't let you let this happen to you don't be weak be strong and do the right thing for yourself yes it will hurt in the beginning but in the end you will know that yoiu made the best desition I know that it is hard and you must be hurtinng but be strong for yourself! I am sure that you will have many people there for you through this hard time I wish you the best and just remeber do what is right. good luck
2007-01-09 16:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by LoVn2bAmOmMy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guy did this somewhere I heard or it may not even be true but f*ck it do it anyway, I know its tough I been through some pretty crazy sh1t in relationships and everyone out there loves to tell you what the hell to do because from the outside a situation seems so easy to deal with and the answer should be obvious right? NOPE if you Truly Love someone it makes things way more f*cking complicated. ANYWAY just forget what I said and try to get a picture or some other solid gold evidence of them Banging have it taped under everyone's seat during the Wedding and Just before the Priest opens his piehole make an anoucement and tell everyone about their present under their seat and then just leave or grab the best man and make out with him and then leave with him. f*ck yeah!!!
2007-01-09 16:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by rockmyrolll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, he is AMAZING and so are you for even asking what to do.
Answer: Go ahead and marry him so you you can go through life not trusting him or that sister of yours. When you get tired (after at least 3 years) then get a divorce and end up like you should have in the first place,single. But by now you'll be a single parent with probably 2 kids and a dead beat for a father. Yeah, he will be a dead beat if he lacks the morals to not sleep with your sister, I doubt he'll be resposible enough to take care of the kids.
Can you just email my invitation?
2007-01-09 16:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Victor H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the saddest things I have ever read. Whether or not you get married the relationship is beyond repair with your sister and your fiancee.
Start a new life and forget both of these people. You have more self worth than to settle for these two and a bad chapter in a book not worth reading. Move on before you really set yourself up in a very bad life in a place with no doors.
2007-01-09 17:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts!??? sure you love him, but enough to get married with ALL THESE ISSUES at hand? It doesn't matter how long you've been with him, he's a jack ***! and your sister is just as bad.
Call off the wedding and start therapy right away if you think he's worth all of this you have some MAJOR problems to work out.
Honestly no guy that can screw his finances sister can be ALL THAT AMAZING! He's a sleaze ball.
2007-01-09 16:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you saying? You're going to continue with your wedding plans only to be assured of being used and knowing that your sister slept with your husband. Are you crazy? He's only going to hurt you, If he slept with your sister he could sleep with someone else also. Stop the insanity now and tell everyone the wedding is off! You will have satisfaction and honor for yourself in doing so. I don't care what you had, he will only pursue your sister again and maybe someone else. There isn't anything that says you have to go through with this.
2007-01-09 16:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this.
If this is true, you are going to have to dump him. It's good that you found out soon enough that he cheats, rather than marry him and find out afterwards.
Terminate the engagement, cancel your wedding plans. It's clear to me your fiance is not ready yet for a lifetime exclusive relationship.
2007-01-09 17:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the ring and shove it up his a--! Then kick your sisters. After that make phone calls or send announcements that the wedding is indefinitely cancel led. Then you'll be free and clear to meet a real man, because he is not one! And nobody deserves to be married to a piece of sh-t like that! Sorry for the crudeness, but I'm actually being polite-good luck.
2007-01-09 16:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Aces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband-to-be does love you, he will not cheat on you. If he cheat on you before marriage, then he can also do it after marriage. Can you accept this after you married him? The question you want to ask yourself is, do you want to take the risk? I advise you to talk to him and tell him you knew about his affair with your sister. Communication is the key to a relationship. Thrash it out with him and if possible, make him sign a contract indicating that if you find him cheating you again, you will divorce him and get compensation for the divorce. This will deter him from cheating you after marriage. However, as I mentioned before, he has done it before, he may do it again. So can you accept it? Is it worth it?
2007-01-09 16:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by Pureskill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋