Your problem is really serious, you two married in a temple & God know whether this marriage was solemnized with proper Hindu rites & customs, whether Saptapadi (taking of seven steps by both before the sacred fire, the marriage becomes complete & binding when the seventh step is complete, these are not Pheras around the sacred fire) which is essential ceremony in any Arya Hindu Marriage was actually performed or not? Without the proof of all this you cannot plead that you actually got legally married with him. Even if you can obtain a certificate regarding the actual performance of this ceremony i.e. Saptapadi along with all other Arya Hindu marriage ceremonies, you can enforce your right as a legally wedded wife. You can also take help of those people who were witness to your marriage ceremony. So the best course for you is to get a certificate from the priest who preformed your marriage with specifying that the marriage was preformed with all the Arya Hindu rites & ceremonies including Saptapadi. It is also advised don’t tell your boyfriend/husband that you want or are getting such a marriage certificate. Although it is always advised that any marriage preformed should be got registered either under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 (only for any HINDU Marriage) or under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 (for any marriage including Hindu marriage) thus ensuring the proof of such a marriage & records kept with the marriage officer under any of these two enactments is open for inspection by public as these are public records open for any person two check them & obtain certificate of the marriage. But you alone cannot get this registration done under any of these Acts as such an registration requires joint application of both husband & wife which I’m sure your husband will not agree now, but you can still prove your marriage with the help of the certificate issued by the priest as I have stated above. These are the legal aspect & solution for your case. For any other clarification you can always contact me personally on net. I’m a lawyer of 24 yrs experience.
2007-01-09 18:03:30
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answered by bisexualmale s 6
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First of all your marriage in the temple is not really valid unless it is registered in a court of law. Females are often lured into this so that they have a false sense of security and do not feel guilty about having premarital sex. Sonal Honey, this may hurt but I am sure that your boy friend has no intentions of marrying you against the wishes of his parents. He is using the final year Engineering as a means of distancing himself from you. He has realized that soon he has to take a stand on legal marriage to you and I am afraid he wants to back out. From your point of view I think the best option will be to let go. Even if you somehow force him to marry you legally it will be a disastrous marriage, he will feel like a trapped animal, his people will go out of their way to make you pay and God help the children. I urge you to move away now and find someone who loves you not lust after you. Don’t be disheartened, look at the good side, ‘you are being saved from a lifetime of hell.’ Good luck.
2007-01-09 17:39:29
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answered by Anonymous
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He should have known that his parents would not agree and not promised you and married secretly in the temple. He is not a man, He does not love you, He is only playing with you. Now that he has his full of your charms, he does not need you. He is avoiding you. If you persist, he may beat you. You can never say. It is late, but not too late. Act difficult to get, Avoid physical contact and do not allow him to touch you, till he marries you or he won't marry you.
2007-01-09 21:33:31
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answered by wizard of the East 7
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Information given is not clear. If this is in a country like India, according to my understanding any marriage is valid only if both of you are above 18 years. Assuming you are so, if you want to save your marriage, the first thing you should do is register it. You can have your friends sign as witnesses instead of parents. Keep a copy of the marriage registration document or better still the original
Somehow convince your boyfriend to come to the marriage registration office. Otherwise you are in trouble
2007-01-09 16:46:53
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answered by rvsasi 2
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even i kno what u mean.. i had a bf like that.. and in the end i decided and left him. now im happy in a steady relationship with a really nice guy. let me tell u there are pandits who issue certificates of marriage. wedding in a temple is obviously accepted if it is witnessed by a poojari. and a marr certficate is signed. let me tell u one more thing if he loves u so much na he would marry u no matter wat his parents say.. cos in the end his parents wil accept you if they see him happily married to u.. in the end dear it is you who has to decide.. if ur pretty sure that he is going to do as his parents say and not marry u then have some dignity & let go of this destructive relationship. i hope u take the right step.. letting go is so very hard but i m sure it wil help u eventually.. he is a coward if he says he regrets meeting u.. u deserve a better guy who wil stand by u even if no one else will..
2007-01-12 03:13:12
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answered by menakshistar 2
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its very simple..if he truly loves u then just ask him..whether he is able to find a solution to this or not....
if he loves u then he wont leave u at any cost....no matter how much time he has to spend on convincing his family members....n if he cant go agianst his famliy decisions..then why is what he is doing with u when he clearly knows that he wont be able to fulfil ur dreams.
when dreams of heart shatters..its the worst so dont let that situation to come......
in short make it clear what he can do n what he cant....becoz false expections are always harmful....
n what i feel that where ur story has reached..its no more turning back..its his moral duty to be with u if he was not sure why he made such a decision...n if he betrays u...for familty reasons then it wont be his fault...
it would be ur wrong decision to choose a person to spend ur whole life who is not able to think by his own head.....becoz if things turned wrong side..then nobody would be abe to help u...
its good to think by heart..but if the entire decision is by heart based..then there could be a problem.
make it very clear what would be ur combined decision in case of any problem.
best wishes for ur married life.
2007-01-09 17:08:15
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answered by gaurav_loveapple 2
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He is a cheat and you are an innocent girl. If Love is true, it does'n't search sideways. It is open. This boy who cannot declare himself infront of parents, with whom he had so great relationship for so many year, CANNOT protect you from the world either. True lover always protects the person whom he / she loved. Never tries for a way out of it. I strongly believe that only to have sex with you he had married you secretely. If you already had it, thats all. He has lost interest in you and now all the stories are coming up. FACE THE TRUTH!
Whatever he is telling is cookup stories. Forget him. you have another Forty years of life ahead. Don't waste it for this SEX HUNGER, Coward Guy. Don't spoil your brain. It is just one more experience in thelife. At least know you will know the difference between INFATUATION AND love.
2007-01-09 17:24:37
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answered by auditorsudhakar 3
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standard problem when you get into things at that early age.
well guys have this problem in the adoloscent age they just feel the need of a girl friend and end up having a deep relation which they feel is boring after some time.
so my advice never get into a serious relation until you start working or your some 22 or so.
2007-01-11 08:51:04
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answered by c.dude 2
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Leave him apart immediately. In future more worries you will be getting from such person. The person who can not shoulder the responsibility of saying truth to his parents may not be taken as life-partner.
2007-01-09 18:50:42
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answered by yash 1
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Yep the old temple marriage trick.
2007-01-09 16:43:54
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answered by spud 4
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