i feel weird and worthless and depressed?

Question

i feel like there's something wrong with me. i don't suffer from too much social anxiety, and i can still talk in groups and everything, but for some reason, i don't talk enough to be able to make friends easily. i feel like my classmates don't want to talk to me, because they probably think i don't talk enough or something, even though i make an effort to make friends. it never works. so what can i do to be more friendly and have people like me? I mean, i try. i smile, make eye contact, and talk, but i feel like they find me boring and don't want to talk to me. is there anything i can do?

Answer 1

It is a vicious circle, yoiu feel weird and exclude yourself. because you exclude yourself, no one asks you in. Since no one asks you in, you exclude yourself.

You have to feel better aobut yourself. When your confidence comes through, things will change

Answer 2

Wow- you put into words what I go through a lot. I went to a therapist and she said I have social anxiety even though I can be friendly, make conversation with people, still, there's this lack of connection with most people I can't really explain. ..my therapist said that feeling is anxiety and self-consciousness. Working with her has helped a lot and I don't feel as self-conscious as I used to be and have had it easier talking with people. It sounds to me like you have a lot of anxiety and this effects how you interact with other people. I'm sure you're a great, interesting person with a lot to offer as a friend. In fact, prob. the best friends are those that are more introverted and actually listen to others rather than talk all the time. I agree with the other poster that if you focus on others, ask a lot of questions, and act kind/nice people will think highly of you because you will show interest in them. Don't put yourself down like that. I would highly suggest going to a school counselor- usually the services are free. It's nothing to be ashamed of. I think it will help you gain the confidence you need.

Answer 3

This answer just a wild guess, so keep that in mind. Maybe you really don't like the people around you. You feel that they don't like you, but really it is you who don't like them, even though you are not full conscious of this. But they sense that you don't like them very much. Maybe you don't like them because you are smarter than they are. Maybe you are more talented and creative than they are. Maybe you are just different from them. If all this is true, you should be able to find people who are more like you, people you will like and who will like you. And here's another idea that is frequently true: It seems that sometimes the secret to making friends is not to focus on making friends, but instead to focus on getting really good at sometime. Then people will notice that you are really good at something, and they will be impressed and interested, and they will want to get to know you. That will get things going. Nearly everyone can get really good at something. It takes hard work and persistence, but it is doable. This works for both guys and gals. So sort of forget about all these people, for a while anyway, and instead focus on becoming exceptional and excellent at something. What should this something be? It could be something you naturally like to do, or which you naturally are good at. Another truth: Anyone who seems desperate for friends is never able to make any, at least not with anyone worth having as a friend. People can smell desperation a mile a way, and they flee from it. And don't forget Ziglar's Law: "Give people what THEY want and they will give you what YOU want." That Law never fails. It explains everything about human relationships. But it means that you must really correctly identify the particular things that particular other people WANT and don't WANT, love and can't stand.. Lastly, I know how you feel. Being alone and having no friends is a miserable experience. But it doesn't have to be this way. Become a student of the game of life, and learn to play it better. You can do it. Best wishes.

Answer 4

That is so weird I feel the same way. I feel like everytime I talk to someone they think I boring. I also try to make a effort to make friends but it never ends up working out. The only advice I could give is to get into afterschool clubs. You could go into something that you are interested in and also meet people that are interested in the same thing. That way you have something to talk about.

Answer 5

Focus less on your self, begin tuning in to how they feel and think. It's easy to get mired down in self-doubt when you're monitoring yourself so much, tune those sensors outward and that should help you start making some real connections. If it's any consolation, 90% of people in your circle are also paintfully self-conscious and critical. They want someone who can relate to that, not make a grand show of personality, and simply be....a real human being, warts and all. Hope that makes sense. I've been there and done that, it gets better. Just keep upbeat and genuine, but don't get down on yourself if you have a "blue mood" now and then.

*hug*

Answer 6

All you ca do is throw yourself out there, make a joke about the teacher, or wear some thing really hot to class, people who pay attention mostly to themselves usually get the most attention, they see how much care you put into yourself and they want a peice of that, usually, a hot put together lil girl never goes unnoticed right ?

Answer 7

Well why don't you get into something you like. Like I ice skate (not at the moment suckiness for me cause I fractured my leg and am casted). Anyways find something you like do it and you will find others that like it too. I havea couple of friends at the Ice rink now and so does my daughter. Anyways try that. don't let others get you down cause they don't know you. You are you and you shouldn't change to make others happy. Other than that I don't know what else to tell you. I am kind of a social butterfly...

Answer 8

I have that problem too!! As I get older I have realized that me being shy comes across as me being a *****! When I have no facial reaction, I look sad!!! I have to be very careful how I look and come across! I’m sorry I don’t know more about you to help you out!! I hope it helped a little! Just remember that everyone is made different and some times we don’t see what is actually happening we only see what we think is happening!!

Answer 9

A friend once told me that whenever I felt nervous about anything to just tell a joke and it will help ease any tension. This actually works anywhere with anybody. Just try being funny. Make cute comments here and there.

Answer 10

oh no... please god belive me when i say this is exacly me.
when im in school i hardly talk at all. its no way to make friends
i maroundalot of people but i dont speak up...im usualy shy
but if you got all the things it takes to make friends then go for it.
heres a tip: talking about the same subjest helps
try laughing alot too
makes people think your active and friendly and would want to get close to you. this will work just be expressive
somewhat be funny in class (if possible)
sometimes just saying hi to alot of random people helps
eventually if you say hi to the same person voer and over
and start haveing small talks eventually they'll become your friend.
your not boaring.you just gotta express yourself :]
be creative with your thought :]

Answer 11

Donn't panic drop these thoughts and try to think positive lysy to yourself that"i am as good as others,i have no reason to be lonely or to be depressed"Practice this self-talk everytime you feel blue.become a better person and others will enjoy being with you
Good Luck