I'm friends with a guy that I am attracted to, but don't want to be in a relationship with. It's an odd dynamic but I'm being honest. I have thought about asking him whether or not he'd be into being "friends with benefits" (or having sex with no strings attached). We're two mature adults, and I'm sure we could take the relationship to that area without messing up the friendship that we share.
Would a man be offended by this kind of proposition? If I DO decide to ask him, how should I approach it (wording, type of scenario, etc.)? I don't want to offend him or scare him at all, but I really want to ask him if he'd be into it.
Please, guys, I need your honest opinions.
2007-01-09 16:13:14 · 7 answers · asked by karuna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm a woman and he's a straight male.
but you shouldn't have assumed we were not gay, really.
2007-01-09 16:19:33 · update #1
When the two of your are together and have a little privacy, tell him that you have a topic to briefly discuss with him and need his comments. Then tell him if he does not like or approve of what you are going to say that you want to remain good friends.
At that point simply tell him you are not looking for a relationship but would like to be intimate with him on occasions. You and he can both still date others. At that point, do not talk anymore. Just watch the expression on his face and wait for him to speak first. You will then have your answer.
2007-01-09 16:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 14:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would offend me if i really loved that person. I would feel pretty unhappy!
The question is why dont you want to be with him. By doing it this way, if he loves you!
2007-01-09 16:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better to ask then to assume you might as well ask the worst he would say is no,but think about the consequences both good and bad
2007-01-12 03:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is gonna be thrilled with the idea as every guy would
2007-01-09 16:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by e_s_p 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he would be offended.. just be honest
2007-01-09 16:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Betsy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a guy they will be....
2007-01-09 16:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋