im a 17 year old junior in high school, and at my school theres this one kid who nobody has really said a word to since about 7th grade. i think its cause he is anti-social but everyone else says its cause he is a jew. we live in a predominantly german town and some peoples views still havent changed. i cant befriend him because people would be angry with me, but i kinda feel bad seeing him alone all the time, and i also feel bad when people call him racial slurs. im not big enough of a person at this point in my life to stand up to them so i just make fun of him too, oh well its his fault for being jewish i guess. are there any possible solutions for this situation?
2007-01-09 16:10:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
He doesn't need your pity from afar. If you stand by when people make fun of him, then you're just as guilty as them. It's pretty shallow of you to not be willing to talk to this boy because he's Jewish and people don't like that. Your "moral fiber" is being tested, and so far, you're FAILING!
2007-01-09 16:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria Love-Williams 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You say you feel bad for him and you want a solution to this, yet you make fun of him along with everyone else. If you truly want to help, you can at least begin by not teasing him. Even if your friends are making fun of him, just don't say anything. And it's not his fault that he's Jewish. He was born Jewish. I'm sure he wouldn't have chosen to be Jewish if he'd had the ability to for-see how people would treat him.
You don't have to befriend him. By simply not teasing him while everyone else does, he might see that you're not against him. I think that would be a good start.
Also, you say that you're not a big enough person to stand up to them. That's fine. Just try to be more open minded, decide where you stand, and stand strong in your beliefs. When you do this you wont find it so difficult to go against the crowd.
2007-01-09 16:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by keskesavledire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, do this! Seriously, this does not need to go untouched! Write down something extremely criticizing about everyone that makes these remarks, and let them know how shallow they are when you burn them. Take serious offense about this, because it's not this kid's fault! Tell the teacher the whole story if a big deal arises. You might not even wanna be the kid's friend, but no one deserves to be ridiculed in such a hypocritic manner. I used to get picked on myself and no one took up for me. Eventually I just took it into my own hands and started bloodying noses, but only wished I had more wit about myself. Help this kid out, no one else may ever do it and he may not find a way to deal with it like I did. Be true to yourself bro! I was just quiet and misunderstood and never criticisized another soul. You can be a figure of what is truly riteous to your generation! Don't pass that up.
2007-01-09 16:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by J Brewhah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know the answer is a hard one. i think that u know you could befriend him, you know you probably should, but just dont want to lose any status at that school that you have. your afraid they will say something about you which is unfortunate. you said it is his fault for being jewish, as if he can just change that. like its his fault of his hair or eye color. people are ignorant and hopefully not but probably always will be. i venture to say that hopefully one day it is not your child who is treated that way, as someone like you follows the crowd to poke fun. there is a reason people always cheer on the "underdog", they typically end up being the better person. Do the right thing, you dont have to befriend him but maybe stop adding to the pain.
2007-01-09 16:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh damn.. I f you like this person or have any compasion about you stand up for him. So what if he's anti social. I dont give a rats *** if he is Jewish. If you care about him take up for him. Take a stand. You are here asking questions so I know u must care. That is the first step. Caring. Dont make fun of him. Just make him your friend. You will be surpised when caring and friendship will go. Forget about all those losers. NO being Jewish is not being a loser as well as any other faith. Look we are ALL human. Remember that.
2007-01-09 16:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am afraid to tell you that...no one is going to send out an announcement to let you know when you will be a big enough man to face this. People who stand up...make a conscious choice to do so....that choice is what makes you a man with integrity. I have empathy for you and the young man you mentioned. You are both in a tough spot. He for being outcast by his schoolmates for no REAL reason..and you for knowing better and not feeling confident enough to do or say something about it. Maybe...you are the one that fate is waiting on. It really is up to you....can live with the fact that you stood by and did nothing for the sake of being accepted??? I know you are in a tough spot....maybe you can lean on your folks for some advice...lean on some of the trusted leaders in your community...find a resource that can help you make a decision. I do not know what your town is like.... you are quite practically a man. Maybe you'll be the first to stand up like one...hopefully, you're "friends" will follow your lead.
I wish you luck and clarity....and for the young man too!!
2007-01-09 16:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can be his friend.. F U C K the people who would stop talking to you because of this...they aren´t real friends...
And yes, he cannot be blamed for beeing jewish and this is not a fault... In the same way he can´t blame you for being german or think you´re nazi just because of it...
or maybe the boy is really anti-social.. You should talk to him and help him getting a better social life. Jewsih or not he maybe a nice guy and a good friend.
2007-01-09 16:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by durvalina 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him...let him know someone cares.
I used to be that Jewish boy, and trust me...what I would have given for someone to be friends or at least talk with me. If it's a threat to your physical safety to even associate with him, then I would suggest trying to find a place to talk away from other people.
Screw the others. If you can't bring yourself to befriend the kid, at least have some honor and choose not to associate with those who make fun of him.
There's nothing more pathetic than the biggest men attacking the smallest men.
2007-01-09 16:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Benton 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for this young boy it was not his choice to be born Jewish. You are stuck between a rock and a hard place. If you don't feel comfortable enough to befriend him at least stick to your morals and not join in the racial taunting.
2007-01-09 16:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The solution would be to be nice to, if not befriend him. It is wrong to ostracize anyone from society leaving them alone with no friends and no one to talk to. Then to top it off you make fun of him. I hope you understand that your actions will most likely cause him to live with severe depression, paranoia, and an inability to function properly in society. Good work, just don't blame anyone else when he shoots you.
2007-01-09 16:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Memnoch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋