Well we are Highschool sweet hearts and we had a beatiful daughter most of the time i cant see myelf spending the rest of my life with him but i love him so much and I dont want to see him with someone else so i stay around.......anyways he has allot of ways that i hate but i think we can work on our small problems but my question for you guys is how do i test him to make sure he's ready for mariage??
2007-01-09 15:28:00 · 12 answers · asked by Katrina S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't test drive someone. You decide if you both can make a commitment. That's where you start.
2007-01-09 15:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, don't test. When he is ready, he will tell you. However, getting married is just a piece of paper. Often enough, people get divorced and get rid of this paper anyway, as if nothing. So, think about this, do you really need to be legally married to be happy with your man and child? If your answer is yes, then you can try spreading a few Bride's magazine on the coffee table. This has worked for 3 of my friends already.
2007-01-09 15:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by coochie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to test him to see if he's ready for marriage? If he was ready, he would have asked you to marry him by now. If most of the time you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with him, then what kind of message are you putting up for yourself and him?
Don't push him into marriage if he is not ready. If there are red flags that you see with him, like issues he has, it could be he is immature. If he hasn't ask you to marry, it could be he sees red flags on you too.
If it has been over 3 years that he hasn't asked you, then he is not ready! So let him decide on his own, and take your time about it.
2007-01-09 15:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend time with him like you already have. If things seem like they are good and you can live with each others down side and are happy with the up sides then all is good. If you fuss and don't see some things to the same way then you need to move on to find someone that is more compatable.
2007-01-09 15:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to test him. If he is not falling head over heels for you, then he probably isn't Mr. Right. The best thing you could do is to date around. Test the waters. If he is really the one for you, he'll make it very obvious to you. If he just drifts away, maybe it is best. There are so very many people in this world of ours, that you will find the one that compliments you. Don't force marraige on anyone. If it is not right, you'll regret it, trust me on this one.
2007-01-09 15:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by michael7591 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you cant see yourself spending rest of your life with him then you should not bother because he wont change and you wont be able to change him - but otherwise you could ask him:
1. are you ready for a commitment
2. do you love me
3. can we raise a family together
4. are you willing to sacrifice and compromise
5. will you stop seeing any other girls
well if he answers yes to all of these - you are almost there
good luck
2007-01-09 15:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget about him for the moment, it sounds to me like YOU are not ready for marriage. If you stay around someone and have kids with them JUST because you don't want to "see them with someone else", this is about as immature and irresponsible as it gets. Sorry, but you need to grow up first!
2007-01-09 15:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a woman want to marry a man who has not asked her to marry him? I don't understand.
Notwithstanding, you yourself wrote, "I can't see myself spending the rest of my life with him..." If this is the case, why would you want to marry him? You also said, "I don't want to see him with someone else so I stay around..." You don't marry somebody because you don't want anybody else to have them. That is just plain dysfunctional.
Do not try to get this guy to marry you. It wouldn't be fair to him or your child or to yourself.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 16:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question is are you ready for marriage to him?
if you are not seeing yourself with him growing old with him, sitting next to him after the children are grown drinking coffee in the morning maybe you should evaluate how you feel
2007-01-09 15:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by nelle5217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't test him. Your playing with fire. You need to work out your differences before anything. Please don't mess with this one. Your only going to end up hurt in the end and there is a child involved.
2007-01-09 15:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋