Where do I go from here?

Question

I am 17 years old. I have not had a girlfriend because my standards are "too high" (I want a girl that has never smoked, drank, or had sex. they also have to be smart and pretty). At this moment, I have no infatuation or that nonsense, but, I have nothing to hold on to. I have a job, and school, and that is it. I'm interested in Pirates of the Caribbean, Lord of the Rings, and especially, The Legend of Zelda. Now this is gonna sound like a stupid teenage loser - but trust me, I'm not really a nerd. I need guidance in life, I need something to live for - and no, I'm nowhere near suicidal. I'm just really bored. Once I finished the new Legend of Zelda game a couple of days ago - I had that empty feeling in my heart, like, what's the point? Get me? I'm not anti-social, but I don't get along with any specific friends. I get along with everyone - I just don't have best friends that I chill with. Any advice I can use to keep my head looking towards the future is helpful. Thanks

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with what you are looking for...in fact I'm happy that you know what (who) you want..it's just matter of finding that one person now.. well keep you heart and mind open and before you know it..you will have someone..may not be a girlfriend (at first) but you sure will have that one person that you'll take pride in having.... remember (a great) friendship takes give and take... weather it's sharing an experience or just listening without judging... (I'm not saying you don't know this..) and you still have a lot to learn in life so yaa don't compromise with what you are looking for... you are too young for that... and it's not like your standard are impossible to meet......so keep an open heart and be open, and before you know you'll have someone in that heart of your.... good luck and i hope you find that someone special soon....

good luck!!

Answer 2

i know you'll probably say no to this, but this is what changed my life, however this may not exactly guide you toward the "perfect girl".

join the military. i did it because i was bored, felt that i was empty inside and was not very happy in my life. yes, granted, the military life is hard, but if you want to be part of something big that makes you feel as though you earned what you've done - the military is it. i have done so much that i've never done before. not only that, but you learn so much as well as finding a lot about yourself. the plus side is, you find the best friends while going through basic and ait (school for where you learn your job - i recommend military intelligence as it is invigorating). these people will be a part of you through life.

now, i know that i sound like a recruiter, but i mean what i say. it was the best decision i've made and i'm honored to do it. you may not like the idea of waking up at 4 in the morning, being yelled at or even doing things physically to the point of total drainage, but - it is well worth it.

Answer 3

I know you may hear this from many people, and if so I'm sorry for being repetitive. Things will get better for you in all aspects. When you are young everything looks and feels so huge. Focus on what you want and spend your time going after it, whatever it is. That should keep you from getting too bored. Also, as far as the ladies go, it's alright to be picky when you are 17. Just keep in mind that when you get older you will meet ladies who made mistakes at a young age and shouldn't have to pay for it for life.

Answer 4

Everything I'd have to say would take a year to get out, so I'll just try to focus and keep this as short as possible. :)

To get a better social life, you can start with forming your own club.
If you're bored, try travelling. You might even be able to recruit someone (or a few) to travel with.

Volunteer if you don't mind sharing your skills. There are tons of ways to contribute to your community, or, the world. A lot of world-travelling volunteers get free airfare, accommodation, meals, etc. It would be an enriching experience to live amongst others outside of your country.

Answer 5

First, let me say that I'm not being mean or putting you down. I feel you could use some counseling. You sound as if you might be headed toward Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Try speaking to your school counselor. Head this off now before you turn into a very unhappy adult next year.

Answer 6

You are just one of the more intelligent souls. Don't settle for less than you desire as far as the girl and wait for marriage too. Any way . We are not these bodies, Race, color, nationality, religion, mind, senses, intellect, job,etc. We are eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul, also known as Krishna, Allah, Vishnu, Jehovah, etc. We have to reconnect to become truly happy. The quickest way to get rid of all misery and boardum and illusion is to chant the maha mantra. This world is temporary and full of misery. If one does not know their constitutional position they will never be happy here. go to krishnaculture. for details and read Bhagavad Gita as it is by Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada. Gives one the purpose of life. also go to stephen-knapp. Read e-book The Key to Real Happiness.

Answer 7

You seem to be unrealistic in your expectations in the opposite sex. Though that doesn't seem to be your main problem. You need guidance, something to live for, so find it. What do you believe in the most? What is it you seek for most in life? Is it love, power, adventure, knowledge, a sense of self fulfillment, what is the object of your heart? Find it. Pursue it with all you are. Become a zealot. I wish to be a modern day Knight. I pursue my own personal sense of chivalry and try to live my life in a way that would bring honor to my name, and the one that would share it with me someday. Perhaps you should do the same.

Answer 8

You need to find something that stimulates your mind other than video games, and I know that jobs for teens are usually don't do this.

You need to find a club or group that interests you. Build something, fix something, do something rewarding like volunteer work. Everyone wants to feel useful and needed.

I like video games, but once you beat them, its over. you really have nothing to show for all the time you spent.