How can I not stress out so much? Im scared of failure because i Have failed so many times before in school?

Question

How can i keep myself more motivated and not get too tired?

Answer 1

It sounds like your self esteem and confidence is a bit low. Try to resolve your thoughts and put them out of your mind. Go for a walk and look at the scenery and take in what you are looking at and then appreciate it. You need to rest your thoughts so you can then move on. Read some articles on improving self esteem and confidence.

Answer 2

Fear of failure is a very real thing, whether it is fear of failing at school or failing at something else. What you need to do is accept the fact that nobody is perfect and that at some time in our lives we will all make mistakes and fail but that failure is just another chance to try again and that you only really lose when you stop trying. Accept that you are not perfect, you may fail at some things but you will be strong at other things. Unfortunately we can't always just do the things we are strong at but sometimes we need to push through those things we are failing at in order to become stronger people. Write down a list of the things that you are good at (there will be at least some I promise) and then alternate doing those things that you enjoy and are good at with those things you don't enjoy or are not good at. Use the things you enjoy as an incentive to get through those things you don't. for example if you enjoy sports but not studying, say that once you have studied a section of work you will treat yourself to some practice time. By doing this you keep motivated and can become a more balanced person.

Answer 3

Some of us fall into a deeper, deeper hole than we don't have control over. Do not stress yourself with all the failure at once. Just take care of things one by one. By the way, you of all people have not failed. You still have some options ahead of you. Do not be blinded by the options that are around you. I'm going to take a guess that you are on your last year of high school? If so, take advantages of Adult classes. You haven't not failed so, you still have this option.

Answer 4

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 5

well, don't think about it as stress, your just putting more stress on urself. Just try as best as u can to pass ur grades, everyone fails, maybe even more than u do.

*no ones perfect

Answer 6

Pray and ask God for help. Jesus will never let you down, and He will guide you to learn and do what you know inside you can do. Its all about choosing to do something and following through. Make it up in your mind- you CAN do it! Believe in yourself.

Answer 7

Check out ( http://www.reducingstress.net ) they have great information on how to deal with and reduce all kinds of stress.

Good luck