My husband is really into oral sex, he loves giving and especially receiving, I don't know why but I just find it so disgusting. I gag and feel sick after doing it. I feel like its so dirty, I mean its where we pee from and ugg!! I want to make him happy though, any ideas on how I could learn to like it a little better, for him.
2007-01-09 14:59:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I like all the answers EXCEPT the ones suggesting to let him go elsewhere for it. I really didn't like it either before, but that was before I was with someone who knew how to do it WELL. Relationships, both emotional and sexually intimate, are a learning process. Babe Ruth didn't hit a hummer (oops...lol) I mean HOMER his first, or second, or third time up to the plate. I don't give them to just anyone...matter of fact, only the person I am with, but it IS nice to know that I did that for him and he enjoyed it IMMENSELY - guys aren't the only ones who get a huge kick out of pleasing their partner ;-).
I wouldn't say it's my favorite thing to do, but his reaction is worth every bit of it...especially drawn out til he can't take another second...lol. Knowing that makes it even more enjoyable. (Naturally, my FAVORITE thing is getting it in return :D )
The others are right though...get it wet, work what you don't like out, use syrups, or whatever safe substance you do like, wash...some people shave so body oils, odors and fluids don't get trapped in the hair and that does help, too. I can't say what is right for you. If you think THAT is dirty, you should see what some people do as an expression of their physical love!
I do think it would help to visualize yourself a sex goddess or whatever works for you...get yourself to a place where you can feel and be adventurous and playful...or let him work you up til YOU can't stand it - then attack HIM...LOL.
2007-01-09 16:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by think about it 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you must know that oral sex is absolutely fine (not nasty at all) and not so dirty as u think. You dont want to do it because you think it's unhygenic but you should know that some food we eat, some drink we use are even dirtier. When i was student, i worked part-time at Hyatt. yes, u know their standard right? But when the kitchen got too busy, the dish washer had to prepare the sandwiches too and he didnt care to wash his hands whatsoever. It was too busy, who get noticed? The customers still loved the sandwiches (that i brought them). See? Secondly, no one has died because of having oral sex. Billions of people enjoy oral sex every second of the day in the world. Just think that you are avoiding the most fantastic food that everybody loves.
Thirdly, u must open or mind up. We might never did something before but it doesnt mean we wont do it forever. Your husband loves it. And u love him. Give him what he deserves, my friend. I kwow many people have tried very weird sex things just because their partners love it and they want to enjoy it with their partners. Sex is the game for two. If his genital is too big, tell him dont push it into your throat. And you just slowly touch it, lick it, feel it. Like u eat ur tasty ice-cream. And when u get excited, do it stronglier.
Efforts make people stand out. Efforts can also make someone become excellent love maker. Good luck!
P.S: I'll never have sex with anyone who doesnt give oral sex. No way!
2007-01-09 16:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by noble_rubbish 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What happen to you growing up,did someone hurt you,maybe a brother or uncle or a so called friend.I was hurt at a very young age and I went through thinking everything was dirty to.It took me a very long time to get over it.Do you need to wash yourself before you have sex with your husband and does it bother your husband when you do that?You need to keep saying to yourself no one is watching me or judging me and what I'm doing is fun and my husband loves me and he doesn't think bad of me for doing it to him.This is a good thing I'm doing and everyone else is doing it to.Keep saying that over and over and it will sink in.Another thing that helps drink some sweet tea right before you start .It makes him taste much better.You say that you gag well you are putting to much in your mouth and if you don't like putting it in then just lick it like you would if you had a ice cream or lopop
2007-01-09 16:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flavored condoms or syrups (sugar free).
However, if you truly find oral sex that repugnant you should not have to preform such acts. Since you made the comment that you "want to make him happy", at least try and do it occasionally. Like for his birthday, or when he gets a raise, or other special occasions.
After the first bit of pre-ejaculate comes out it clears out the tubes so that no urine is left over. It's clean then.
2007-01-09 15:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play after a bath or showering. Do more with your hands and just give him plenty of attention. There is nothing dirty about pleasing each other. Just try different things till you find what works for you.
2007-01-09 15:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love it when my mrs gives me oral as I do to her, use your hands on his shaft & balls, only suck the head like it was your favourite boiled sweet like you want more flavour, use your tongue to be really hard on his gland, you wont gag cuz its not far in, he wont complain at the depth his member goes in your mouth as your hands will be keeping his mind on enjoyment, if you find it a bit dirty cuz ya pee out the same hole give it a wash first, the rest will kum naturally.
2007-01-09 15:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by devilinme 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you... you've been set against something that is really sweet and special and oh so pleasurable.
I don't know what I can tell you, except that you have expressed a desire to like it. If you want to like it, you might have a chance to use hypno therapy or behavior mod techniques to change your current attitude about oral sex.
2007-01-10 01:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's why men have affairs.. you can't get it at home, you go somewhere else. If you don't like it now you wont later, so your probably not even that good at it, try some toppings.. imagination, or let him get it else where. Love and sex are two different thing anyway, so if you don't love it for him or cause of him, then you see it as only a disgusting sexual act, try some love.
I AM
2007-01-09 15:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi reislings!!!
A great help is to think, the reality of the situation, if your husband loves it, and you don't; you will like doing it for him as soon as you start thinking that if you don't he will find someone who does.
And usually in situations like this, husband leaves wife for "BJ's". Sorry but it is the honest truth!!! Also if he doesn't leave you he WILL be unfaithful, just looking for what you can't give him!!!
Honey if this doesn't help you contain your, disgust I don't know what will!!!
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LFE
2007-01-09 15:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you think it is dirty, I dint know that you really get past that feeling, I understand your husbands feelings, and I understand yours, sorry that you hate it, and he loves it, some hard roads to cross, good luck.
2007-01-09 15:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋