Okay so here's the deal. I'm 13 and I have this friend who I have known since like ever, but he's a guy and I'm pretty sure he's gay. I still love him like one of my bestfriends, He'san amazing artist and I'm not being sterotypical when I say this but he's amzing with fashion at only 14. But I'm not the only one who thinks he's gay. He get's a lot of trouble from behind his back that he dones't know of. I always stand up for him and everything. REcently at our school dance he was standing there all alone so I asked him to dance as friends and he said yes. But then some boys came up to us and started calling him names, yes those kinds of names and he's been real deppressed since what should I do, I told my teacher but it he's till unhappy ecen thouhg the boys got in trouble. Help I'm only a kid I don't know what do do!
2007-01-09 14:41:45 · 10 answers · asked by perpetaully sarcastic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Being that young and dealing with a homosexual issue is extremely tough. Junior high is only two years long so it's definately not going to last forever. High school is somewhat better when it comes to that. You still have the bullies who will resort to calling people names but it's not as bad. I had a bunch of friends in high school who were gay at the time or came out later after we graduated. It's ok and it will take time.
Now about your friend, he is in a tough spot since he is young, depressed, and of course being a guy and being degraded like that. Constantly tell him that it's ok and just be there for him. I am not trying to scare you but this is an idle age for kids to commit suicide. Just watch him and be there for him. If he is gay, then he's gay; if he's not then I guess he is the next Ryan Seacrest. Just be there for him.
2007-01-09 14:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's metro, I've got a friend just like that and I'm 13 too. Don't assume anything, just comfort him like crazy. Make sure you don't even hint at him being gay, that's how rumors start. If it happens again stand up for him.
2007-01-12 18:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Hayley P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help him to become comfortable with who he is. let him know, no matter what others say, you are still his friend, and it dosent matter what other kids say. yes, this world is cruel, but one day, he could have his own clothing line, and his own fashion show! support him in what he does best, and dont stop sticking up for him! thats a true friend! to help him feel better, go to his house one day, and have him draw pictures of thoes other kids that were making fun of him in some crazy outfits. what i used to do when kids made fun of me, was i would find a picture of them in the yearbook, and cut out thier face and glue it to a piece of paper and draw really crazy bodies, like really short arms and long legs, and i would get a laugh from it, and it made me feel better. it was my way of making fun of them since they made fun of me, without stooping down to thier level and calling them names back. then when i was done with the picture, i would tear it up and throw it away. that was the funnest part. i dunno, my idea may sound stupid, but it worked for me, and sometimes i would be cracking up so hard that i had tears in my eyes. or if that dosent sound like fun, mabye a day of popcorn and good movies will cheer him up. nothing like vegging out in front of the tv for a few hours to make a long week seem not so bad. but, congrats on being such a good friend to him! you might want to keep him as your friend for a long time. for future reference, gay friends are the BEST shopping buddies! he'll love having a good friend to shop with too! best of luck, tell your friend to cheer up for me!
2007-01-09 23:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to worry about what ppl think of him.........what comes
around goes around.............the guys who make fun of him
will get their day...may not be now but in future.............
tell him to hold his head up high no matter what they are saying.
If he continues to be depressed he is letting them guys
comments get the best of him.............tell him what they say dont
matter because...they dont support him or help you in any way so their opinion dont really matter....The only ones that should matter to him are the ppl who truly do love and care for him like you and whomever.
2007-01-09 23:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by sensitive1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if their gonna be making fun of his sexuality, make fun of the other people's race. an eye for an eye. Also, make sure all the girls know about this, so those boys wont be having girlfriends for a while
2007-01-09 22:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by big e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next dance ask him to dance and if thous boy make fun of him just be like " ya well at least he can get a girl" or somthing like that im shur it will work out!
2007-01-09 22:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Reaper G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sad for your friend. I think you are a really good friend. I think it's great how you stick up for him. You are a great friend and I hope you keep on being there for him. That's really all you can. do.
2007-01-09 22:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing, stand up for your friends.
2007-01-09 22:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him a really buff boyfriend.
2007-01-09 22:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by Twitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be his friend.
2007-01-09 22:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by mechengr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋