my cousin had 3 boys in 2years, 2 babies where premature. she has nowhere to live and has a broke baby daddy. that has never bought his kids anything. we grew up like sisters and it hurts me, to see her life being thrown away because she is only 24. should i get involved or stay away. besides i cant have a conversation with her because she lies alot
2007-01-09 14:36:46 · 12 answers · asked by drenessa2104 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it's really up to you on this one. You can help out, but you have to make sure that your helping has boundries. Don't let it get to the point where she is abusing your help, but I think some help is probably the right thing to do if you care about this cousin. You should also get her help to get a presciption for birth control or at least a box of condoms and possibly a social worker or counsellor as well.
2007-01-09 14:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved. You may love her like a sister, but you are asking for BIG trouble. Be there for her when she needs to talk, but don't go any further. You will end up taking care of everyone. If she lies to you, who knows what else is going on. She made her bed, now she has to lie in it. Part of the problem with this world is that people are not held accountable for their actions. Hey, I can go and screw up, then have someone bail my butt out time and time again. Tough Love is the answer.
2007-01-09 23:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Natterjack9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs more help than what you can give her. She can guide her in the direction of the behavioral health facility in her area so she can have some free or cheap therapy. Broke daddy needs to get some skills and a job.
2007-01-09 22:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is unfortunate but you cannot get involved with her. She will drag you down with her.
The situation she is in is HER fault. She created the situation and now has to live with it. She is old enough to know the risks of unprotected sex and should know that if a man is a dead beat with no job before she has sex with him, he will NOT change. You can't help her. Learn from her life and mistakes and move on.
2007-01-09 23:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.. Pray for her because she sounds like she needs JESUS!! Tell her to close her legs and don't pop out any more kids if she can't afford what she already has!! I have one child and being that I want her to have the best life possible I couldn't imagine having more unless I could afford them!! Your cousin needs to help herself before anyone else can help her.. If she is a lier then close your ears and open your heart and just pray for her!!!
2007-01-09 22:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is best to stay out of it. Do not give her money or buy the kids anything that she has to supply as a mom. she put herself into this and she can figure how to get it to be good. it is not too late.
She is a liar because she is embarrasesd so just leave it alone.
2007-01-09 22:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by whijess03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously too stupid to use birth control. I doubt whether anything you could say to her would turn on the light upstairs. Sad situation for the kids though, to be raised by a mother with the IQ of a heifer.
2007-01-09 22:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her some birth control pills, and suggest to her that she not put any more children on this planet that she cannot afford to support....Also give her an aspirin tablet and tell her that when she meets a man to squeeze it tightly between the inside of her knees....
2007-01-09 23:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away! If you feel guilty, then just do small things to help her; but if you step inside her world, you will be caught up in it and find it hard to get out. Misery loves company.
2007-01-09 22:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by Blitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't in volve yourself in her homelife. Just be there when she needs you. To help her you mght invite her and her kids over for a meal once in awhile.
2007-01-09 22:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋