ok so here it is i talk to this person so much they know me better then any one will ever know me but i feel like im cheating on my husband when he asks me what im doing i tell him im doing my home work or some other lame excuse WHAT SHOULD I DO!
2007-01-09 14:11:25 · 28 answers · asked by mystic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ohhh yeah i guess i should have mentioned this person is a woman
2007-01-09 14:36:55 · update #1
oh BABY , I think that you should just enjoy it. what he don't know can't hurt him right? I have the same problem and its making me a better person.
2007-01-09 14:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You know if I could have taken back telling my husband about my cyber partners I would have but since I cannot I have to tell you how much I regret doing so, it made things much harder for me to work with, he knows I like to talk and that is how I am, but he couldn't deal with the fact that I was talking to other men online, and to me it is just like watching porn...only it is me talking online! But when I did tell him it was a total nightmare, and the arguements that came afterwards was terrible because I really wanted to have my way and he not to have no say in what I do, at the end I still do what I do and got smarter with it I still give him what he wants as well.
Personally I think that you shouldn't tell him anything, for now there will be a time you will though especially when he starts to notice that you are spending much of your time on the computer just like I did, you are going to have to tell him something, but If I were you I would be honest about all of it, yes he is going to get mad and want maybe kill you but I much rather be honest rather than dishonest....And also since you are having these talks with a women well that is much worse than you talking to a man so I say wait awhile and when the time is right then tell him....it is the only way you will be able to really live with yourself....I know I did even though I regret it I am now okay with it....
Good luck!
2007-01-09 22:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you think you should? Is it different from what you want to do? Let me guess this online guy is great he says all the right things. He knows your inner most thoughts and always agrees with you. Well wake up honey he is not real> He is not the person on the computer, in real life. He probably has more issues than you could imagine and then some. As for what to do. What would you want your husband to do, if he was doing what you are doing? Good Luck with your marriage or lack thereof
2007-01-09 22:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mystic!!!
YOU ARE CHEATING ON HIM!!! Answering your question is another; Would you like him to tell you he is having an affair with whoever??? I didn't think so!!!
Why do you want to give your husband heartaches??? Mystic, if you feel so attached to your on line buddy, keep doing it!! Until it goes away!!! But don't forget you are a married woman and don't start making plans to meet this extraordinary stranger!!!???? That would be disastous. Just try to avoid him little by little. You are missing something, and what you can find is big trouble!!!
You know and love your husband, but you don't know a hoot or two about the on line prince. For all you know probably is a frog, instead of a prince!!! And you are willing to make your husband, feel like "crap", for him??? Excuse my french!!!
No, sweetie, I don't think is a good idea to put down your husband for somebody typing sweet to your senses. You are in a RED ALERT!!! If you have any urges that are being met with this on line prince, what you need to discuss with your husband is ....
YOUR URGES!!!! And try new things, ask him to court you again, to make you feel, like when you met!!!
I really think that you are lacking interest in your husband out of boredom!!! Work at it, good man are hard to find!!!
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
ALLIV Z
2007-01-09 22:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look, flat out obviously there is something wrong with your marriage otherwise you wouldn't be making time for someone else!!! You need to be a ( WOMAN ) and conduct yourslef as such!! That is very cheap of you to search out a thrill from someone else instead of fixing whatever is wrong at home!!! And anyone who tells you otherwise is just trash themselves!! Your no better then the men we bash everyday for stepping out on the partner!!! send me a forwarding address so I can ( Fed X ) you some class.. You should get your life in order and do it as fast as possible because if you are bold enough to cheat on line and have the balls to talk to this other man while your husband is in the same house with you then you will eventually do it outside of the home with no technology in between you and your fling!!!
2007-01-09 22:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love your husband, you should stop chatting online with other man. You been putting yourself in a lot of problem. Some of the man online is not honest. Spend more time with your husband instead to a stranger online. Things are not as perfect as we think, stop before its too late to regret.
2007-01-09 23:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you should stop talking with the person online immediately. You don't even have to give the person an excuse. Stop it. You think you know this person online, but you know only what he/she wants you to know. You're totally disrespecting yourself, your husband, and your marriage.
2007-01-09 22:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop the online thing and stick to your original bond. You made a promise to your husband and your breaking it by giving your heart to someone you've probably never met in person. Stop now before the temptation takes you deeper. As for your husband, ignorance is bliss. You shouldn't have to tell him if you stop now.
2007-01-09 22:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by bird_e80 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no...u should tell talk to your husband and figure out what the problem is between the two of you, before you add any salt to the obvious apparent wound there is between the two of you. Resolve that situation first, before adding more problems.
2007-01-09 22:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Carmen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and figure out why it is you cant tell your husband the things that you tell this person....
2007-01-09 22:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by ACV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him only if u dont want him to be your husband anymore but cut off the online thing if you do
2007-01-09 22:31:47 · answer #11 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋