i am a 32 yr old woman who is not happy in my relationship. I have two children with him and do not want to leave because of them. I also do not want to spend the rest of my life unhappy either. What would u do?
2007-01-09 14:04:53 · 16 answers · asked by michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you discussed this with your spouse? Are you both unhappy? If you know the reason why you are unhappy is it something that the two of you can change?
Many factors can be considered, but if you feel you are at a dead end, then perhaps it's time to move on.
Children sense unhappiness in their parents. Your attitude and behavior reflect on your children. You need to decide what's best for them and you.
I divorced from an unhappy marriage. You do not realize the stress of a relationship until it has ended and you begin to wonder how you dealt with being unhappy for so long.
Each situation is different and you need to consider what's best for you and your children.
2007-01-09 14:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough call. I just ended a 19 yr marriage because we tried to stay together for the sake of our 4 kids. Didn't work out since he went out and found someone new...then i kicked him out! Its been 7 months now and I personally am happier then I have been in a really long time. Do you still love him? If you do then you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Chances are he is feeling the same way or just has no clue and is cruising along thinking everything is ok. You owe it to him to have a long talk with him. Try therapy as well. You will be amazed at how much you will learn about each other. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-09 22:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not much info to go on. Do you love him, and him you? If yes to both-there is hope. If no to either-there is not much hope. You need to talk to someone who deals with this type of problem. It is good that you think of your children. But, at 32 you are young enough to have another life-but- it will be complicated by what you have now.
32 is too young to settle for a unhappy life just so the children could be with their father.
I wish I could help, but I would need to 'talk' to you. This kind of problem can not be dealt with via yahoo.
If you live in a fair size city you may be able to find some real good advice in a "large" Baptist church. The larger churches usually have professional counselors trained in marriage and family problems.
2007-01-09 22:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married over 30 years to a wonderful woman who is the greatest thing on earth! I would NeVeR leave anyone with children involved. They will be hurt more than BoTh of you combined. MAKE IT WORK as long as you can for their sake! I have seen children of divorced parents many, many times in my line of work and it ALWAYS affects them in a negative way. I realize that you are not getting any younger but think of them before yourself right now. I suggest that you begin a BIBLE STUDY with a Non-denominational Church in your area. There are a number of study groups nation-wide that may help in this relationship. GOD has certainly been a great help in our marriage. If I can help you find such a group or church just let me know. Have a great evening!
Eds
2007-01-09 22:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Eds 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your wanting to stay in the relationship for the children's sake completely. However, you need to realize that as the children get older they will pick up on your unhappiness. How does your partner feel, is he happy? The children will be much better off with two happy separated parents than two miserable parents that have chosen to be that way. Good luck.
2007-01-09 22:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by mihalicmj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you need to ask yourself why you are not happy? see if you can fix those things. If you can fix them to the point where you can be happy again, then do so. If not, then get out of the relationship & go find yourself a new one that will make you happy. Nothing is more important than your children & your happiness.
2007-01-09 22:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would remind myself that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Give it sometime. So often people say "I love them but I am not in love with them anymore". So, find your way back to them. Usually when someone says that they have already picked out who they are interested in next.
L
2007-01-10 13:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, well first you need to ask yourself why you feel this way. Then you must let him know that you are feeling this way. If he loves you and wants to keep you he will make every effort to make you happy again. Good luck!
2007-01-09 22:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 options
-Leave him and come up with a plan for the kids,like you take them on weekdays,he has them on weekends
-Leave him soons the kids are old enough to move out
2007-01-09 22:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by RandomGreed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave now if I am certain that I am unhappy and there's nothing I can do to make it better.
2007-01-09 22:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋