How can my wife get my 10 month old to sleep without nursing or ferberizing him?

Answer 1

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at 10 months though, it's normal for a baby to nurse to sleep!

Answer 2

I can't see the problem with nursing the baby before he goes to sleep. I have raised 3 daughters and am presently raising 2 grandchildren. I rocked each one to sleep at night while giving them a bottle. All of them except for one was off of the bottle before the age of 1 and the one who was older was born 2 months early so she is slower than the rest at some things.

Right now my grandson is 3 and my granddaughter is 2 and they are both in bed by 9pm of their own free will but there are still nights like tonight that the three year old will want me to rock him for a minute and I do. He goes right to sleep and will sleep through the night unless he gets up to go potty and then he goes right back to sleep. I see nothing wrong with it as long as the child is getting to bed at a decent hour and the parents have a little alone time. Enjoy your son while he is young because before you know it he will be too big to hold and rock.

Answer 3

My 5 year old stilll won't go to sleep withour being near us - but I don't have a problem with that - it actually is a great bonding time for us. I know many will wince but he usually goes to sleep on the couch watch educational TV and then moves to (our) bed later. He also happens to be a very confident, smart, well-behaved, caring child. I have a neice in nephew who grew up in a 'family bed' and later couch to bed combo, believe it or not they are nice, independent teen-agers now and don't have dependency issues.

My younger nieces and nephew (7, 5 and 2) had different expereinces. The oldest wasn't put to bed by herself when she was an infant so of course didn't want to go to bed by herself as she got older. The next 2 were started off sleeping by themselves in their own cribs inisolated rooms from birth - they took right to it and never had bedtime issues.

My baby from the time we brought him home had to be able to see people or would not go to sleep. The 'cry it out' method did nothing but cause him to be very distraught and wake him up even more - he would go into a near panic even as a very young infant.

So the answer for your 10-month old. Work out what works best for you and the baby. If mom needs to be doing something at bedtime or is just really tired - see if you can get the baby to sleep. We suffered no ill effects from letting ours nurse himself to sleep. Willl your baby sleep in the playpen in the living room with the lights dimmed?

Also maybe try adjusting his/her sleep patern if your schedule allows. My baby was night active in the womb - staying up later and getting up later always fit him best.

Each baby is a little person and although we can mold there are many doctors out there agree that you should let the baby have a little say so also - helps to create self-confident kids (mine sure is!)

Good luck whatever path you take. Just be sure the decision is made by the people in your household - don't do anything because everyone else tells you it's the 'best way'.

Answer 4

My 5 month old sleeps from 6 pm to 7-8am. I used the Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child book.
The most important thing I learned is that sleep begets sleep. Putting your baby to bed late will not make him sleep longer.
Put your baby down earlier and he will sleep longer.

Also- your baby should not be needing night time feedings. You should nurse/give a bottle before bed. My son gets a bottle before bed and I put him in his crib awake (drowsy but he is always awake) and turn on his mobile. He falls asleep on his own.
A big mistake parents make is letting there babies get to the point where they are cranky/fussy and then say "oh the baby must be tired now so I'll put him to bed" News flash: by that time it is too late and your baby will not go down easy. Anticipate your baby's needs before he does. I have a routine which starts at 5 pm when my son is HAPPY and playing. We read a book, I give him a bath and a little baby massage to calm him. I put on his pjs and he just KNOWS it is time for bed because we do the same thing every single freaking day. He goes down EASY because he knows what to expect. He gets his bottle in his rocker in his room (in the dark- no tv or distractions) and then he gets put in his crib. Case closed. He may fuss a night or two at first but just leave him be. He does not need anything. He is fed, changed and needs to sleep. Just be CONSISTANT.
My brother has triplet boys that are the same age as yours and he does the same thing I do. Works like a charm. I now give that book to every expectant mom I know. It saved me. (He was a horrible fussy baby who did not like to nap or go to sleep and was up multiple times at night) This was the easiest transition I have ever done. I do not like the ferber method...but I think it is important to nurse before bed.

Answer 5

Well my son will be a year old and I am telling ya we have tried all kinds of ways to get him to sleep. With him being 10 months just try laying him in his crib and if he cries its okay for about 5-10 minutes. If that don't work you can try giving him a bath before you want him to go to bed cause that makes them sleepy. Go for a car ride, walk around with him, or anything like that Good luck ya'll

Answer 6

Go to the library and check out No Cry Sleep Solution. Or get it at the book store.

Answer 7

at night give him some gerber oatmeal at about 7pm if he goes to bed at about 8:30 or something , then right b4 bed give him hi normal bottle and that should be good throughout the entire night, which is what i think ur real question was.....how to get him to sleep through the night w/o feeding him during the night right???

Answer 8

Why don't you try to make him go to sleep. Kids want either their mom or dad to put them to sleep for a while my daughter would only want my fiancee to put her to sleep but now it's my turn. It just depends on the child.

Answer 9

What is ferberizing?? What is wrong with feeding him before he goes to sleep???

Answer 10

my baby is 5 months and sleeps 10 -12 hours a night. i just show him its bed time, put him down, put in pacifier, give him blanket, ( cause he like to cover his face), turn off lights, if he screams, it only lasts ten minutes, but normally he knows, and just goes to sleep. good luck