my boyfriend wears a necklace given to him by his ex- I hate it?

Question

I feel petty, but it bugs me-- I am tempted to wear an old boyfriends ring on my hand that has been in my bottom drawer -until he takes his ex's necklace off- any thoughts?

When I asked him wear he got it- he said his ex gave it to him- i snapped back - make sure you unbutton your shirt so your chest hair can show and you get that look just right- mean I know--but I really hate it- its white trash and HER to me.

Answer 1

buy him one to replace the one he's been wearing

Answer 2

So you hold onto jewelry that old boyfriends give you? So would you be okay with him having the necklace she gave him just as long as he didn't wear it? Or would you not want him to have it at all, even if you keep your old boyfriends stuff?

You know, women tend to have a lot of accessories while men usually don't. You probably have a number of necklaces or rings that you bought or were given to you by family or friends (not boyfriends), so you would have a selection to choose from. This might be the only necklace he has to wear, or maybe one of the few he likes because of the way it looks, and his wanting to wear it has nothing to do with his old girlfriend. However, you pulling out a ring and wearing it because an old boyfriend gave it to you would have everything to do with an old boyfriend.

The way you write this out you come off as being petty, and I wouldn't doubt that his reasons for wearing it are as I described above. Especially since you had to ask him where he got the necklace and he hadn't simply volunteered the information. So he wasn't trying to rub your face in it or anything, like you would be trying to do should you start wearing your old boyfriend's ring.

Of course, this isn't the type of answer you seem to want to hear, although it's probably close to the truth. I expect to come back here and see you've picked one as Best Answer that says you should stick it to him in some way, with a reply like "You are so right, I knew he was an a**hole".

Answer 3

giving him a taste of his own medicine is not the right way to go. Don't play mind games. Just tell him straight out that necklace he wears bothers you since it's from his ex-girlfriend & that you don't want him wearing it anymore! plain & simple! I honestly don't think him wearing it has anything to do with how he feels about his ex-girlfriend. The way guys are these days, no wonder they are hard to understand at times. Anyway, he probably wears that necklace because it looks cool & he likes it. I bet he forgot that his ex got it for him. Just let him know how you feel, end of story.

Answer 4

You may be reading to much into it. To him, it may just be a nice piece of jewelry with no emotional significance. If he knows how much it bothers you, though, and still insists on wearing it, you have every reason to be upset about it. Go ahead and pull that old ring out and start wearing it. Let him know where it came from. Petty or not, if it bothers him it gives you some bargaining power. If he doesn't seem to mind, you'll have to let it go.

Answer 5

I wear clothing my ex's bought me, simply because I like the clothes and I wouldn't want them to go to waste just because of a breakup. It could be that he likes this particular necklace. Have you told him it bothers you to see him wear it? Ask him how he would feel if you wore your ex's ring. Another thought ... buy him a new necklace.

Hope this helped.
I wouldn't make a huge deal about it.
And certainly don't get into an argument over it.
Just remember, he's with you now, not his ex.
;)

Answer 6

Hey



Just tell him it bothers you if he really likes you he will take it off and understand! Good Luck! I hope I helped! If he doesn't just let it be. Also, I don't recommend you wear the old ring unless you really like it. You don't want to get into an argument with your boyfriend. I hope I helped! Good Luck! Also, you could get something he will also wear so you wont feel upset. Good luck!

Answer 7

The necklace represents something he likes. Being a girlfriend asking him to take it off might be seen as your attempts to control him. A better thing to do is to tell him it looks nice, swollow your anamosity, and he will see you as a strong and independant person without insecurities. Although you hate it, he doesn't need to know that. It's only a necklace, not the gal. The fact that your with him says something.

Answer 8

You should at least tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. But my bet is, he already knows that you don't like it...kind of a duh in a relationship...you just don't wear things (especially jewelry) that was given to you by your ex. If you say something about it and he has half a brain and a little respect for you, he'll cut it out and ditch the necklace. You should let him know that necklaces on guys are a little metrosexual anyways.

Answer 9

Yes...tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. But honestly, men are not the emotional creatures that us women are. To him, it's probably just a necklace. To us women, it's a necklace from the ex and he must still have feelings for her because he's wearing it. See?

Answer 10

Not a good feeling huh?I know that he had a past before you and that is to be respected,but still wearing the necklace?Have you ever asked him why he's still wearing it?Talk to him and see how he feels about it.Maybe he'll stop wearing it if you ask him to.You just never know.Good Luck.

Answer 11

First of all, why are you still hanging onto an ex's ring? If you can hold onto something why can't he?

Second of all, let it go. He's not with his ex, he's with you. If he wants to wear the necklace, let him. You're only going to add stress to your relationship and maybe even bring its end if you don't let this go. It's just a necklace.