My brother is unhappily married and seeing someone else. He said he's doing it because his wife had an affair and he doesn't know what he's going to do yet. His wife find out about the other woman and asked him to stop for the sake of their marriage and he said no. He doesn't regret a thing he's doing. I think he's doing this out of spite but he tells me he's falling for this other woman. I want stay out of it, but the other woman he's dating is my best friend. I'm not crazy about his wife but am afraid my friend will get hurt. My friend said she is not going to stop seeing him. THe wife said she is not going to let him go since he basically has been the breadwinner and she's never worked a day in her life. HIs wife doesn't know it's my best friend and will probably think I set them up. Of course I didn't, I love my brother and friend, would love to see them together, but not under these circumstances. I know it's not right. Should I continue to stay out of it?
2007-01-09 13:54:58 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really are in a bad situation.And you are correct in saying that your sister-in-law will never believe you didn't set them up together. There is really nothing you can do about it other than be there for both of them when it all falls apart. But your brother has to know there is no legal way his wife can make him stay with her if he doesn't want to. So why has he not already left her for the women he loves? That in itself should be something your friend should ask herself. Unfortunately talking to either of them about this will probably only cause more problems. I hope everything works out for you. You seem like you need someone to talk to. Try talking to your parents so you don't feel all alone.
2007-01-09 14:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back away slowly.
There are no innocents here. Everyone involved (the triangle) know what is going on. They have made their choices.
If you are afraid that you will be dragged into this, I am sure you will be. When the crap hits the fan, 1 or more of them will come to you for sympathy and expect you to take their side.
If you don't like the wife as much, do you honestly care if she believes something that is not true of you? If she has a hissy fit over it, it may just make you feel better about the situation.
Stay out of it. It's already taken a path.
2007-01-09 14:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't under stand, If he is a good husband, why did she mess around on him, Once he found out about her ,, He should of left rite then and there. See I don't believe in cheating on each other for no reason ,She maid that chose to do it, My wife and I have a under standing that for no reason we wont do it, And if other of us would its OVER no talking about it no forgiving each other. Just get out, How can a man or a woman do that to each other Tell your brother that you love him, And you'll stand beside him no matter what. Let him make the chose
2007-01-09 14:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by bill_ray56 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his wife is silly if she wants to stick around while he's fooling around with someone else. He obviuosly doesnt really love her. Its his problem now if he ends up with a broken heart. He might not realise but the wife is entitled to almost everything if they break up and if she can prove that his cheating on her..this is Australian law anyway. If both of them have told you to stay out of it then I guess you should. Go out with some of your friends and try and relax. Let your bro live his life the way he wants to.
2007-01-09 14:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty much out of your hands. You can't control the situation. Your brother is going to have to work that out. If he is unhappy with the wife, it's up to him to either get divorced and take the hit. Or stop seeing your friend, and try to work things out. Either way, it's a complicated situation. Don't stress over it, it's not your problem.
2007-01-09 14:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by kayjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh good heavens!!! Bless your sweet heart!!! My first instinct is to tell you to back off!! This is way too huge of a mess for you to be involved in. Just accept the fact that one or more people are going to get hurt once the dust settles. All you can do is pray and be there for anyone who needs you to be. Try your best not to take sides and not to take negative about anyone. Best of luck to you sweetie!!!
2007-01-09 14:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worst thing a man can do...is to fall in love with two women. I'm not talking about messing around...I'm talking about being in love with two women. PLEASE NOTE THIS. Any man with experience with the dumb act...will tell you. Don't do it. It seems like a great idea at first, two women, four boobies, this is going to be great. But later the whole things collapses and falls apart. I mean everything, your personal life and professional life. A man can't handle such feat. Remember this posting, when the whole thing falls apart on your brother, tell him you saw it first here.
2007-01-09 14:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Laughing Man Copycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should continue to stay out of it. It is not your place to fix their mistakes. Let them go through this on their own. He can always file for a divorce without the consent of his wife. That's why they have divorce lawyers. She can not hold on to him or make him stay with her if he does not want to be with her anymore.
2007-01-09 14:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by grizzly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage your brother to get rid of his wife, his wife is a cheater and he deserves somebody like your friend. I say if she cheated he has the right to move on, as far as I know when you cheat you ended it and deserve to be left. If you love your brother get him away from that golddiggen cheating wife. Tell him he has to divorce soon before they have anymore babies or have one at all.
2007-01-09 14:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like three wonderful people you have there...a greedy one, a cheating loser, and a homewrecker...I would say you shouldnt worry about your friend getting hurt...if she were smart she wouldnt be ****ing a married man in the first place. Someday perhaps women will realize that is not the path to happiness. But in reality, they all deserve whatever is coming to them...
2007-01-09 13:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋