This married young lady was my classmates in a high school. We did not meet up after about a decade. Therefore, we decided to meet in 2004 for a gathering with most of our classmates.
We continued to have a few gatherings and one day, she called me that she wanted to meet me. Well, as a friend I did not think anything wrong. A few meetings and I still did not think anything wrong.
Our last meeting was during a heavy downpour and she would like to go to my rented apartment for a cup of warm tea before the rain stopped. I was shocked when she pulled me to my bed and she became sexually active. As a man I did not resist but I did not know what to do. But, less than a minute, I told her it was late and time to go home.
From that time, I avoided her aggressive pestering and eventually she stopped. But, recently in 2007, she contacted me again. What should I do? Worst still I know her husband too. I am lost and how to stop her?
2007-01-09 13:51:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is useless to change my phone number as I have tried it. She still can get it from any of my friends.
2007-01-09 13:58:09 · update #1
Tell her exactly what you told us. Tell her that you value her friendship and the friendship you have with her husband and that you are not interested in her in another way that is not a platonic relationship. You need to be straight and honest about it, do not be unclear or ambiguous about what you are saying. Leave no room for her to interpret you wrongly. Let her know that is no possibility of the two of you ever being intimate.
If she still insists on having an affair with you, tell her that you find her unattractive and fat… That should drive her away from you in a hurry.
Good luck and stay strong!
2007-01-09 14:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Girl love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know the husband and you're 100% serious about ending her advances, tell him. The problem is, though, you've probably still got a part of you that is flattered by her advances that you probably won't take a "final" action to end it for good. However, I hope you are strong enough to do so, because you sound like you want to do the noble thing.
2007-01-09 13:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 13:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop and it's wrong and if she's really that unhappy about her marriage she should get councilling or get seperated or divorced anything. Just tell her you don't want to be apart of it. Or change your number.
2007-01-09 13:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by chickidy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to tell her to stop. remind her that she is married and you want nothing to do with this. and that you though you and her was just friends and if she doesnt stop harrassing you then change your phone # stop answering any emails and i think she will get the picture.
2007-01-09 14:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm and tell her to stop bothering her or you will tell her husband if she does not. She'll be mad, but I promise, she'll quit then.
2007-01-09 14:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude. Just give her the pole
2007-01-09 13:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she wants it with you, why fight it? go get some strange!
2007-01-09 13:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what about her husband.
2007-01-09 13:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she doesn't stop harassing you that you will tell her husband
2007-01-09 14:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by pa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋