My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 years and i'm interested in hearing his thoughts about marriage! I don't want to scare him with the topic, but i'm really curious to know what he thinks about it. Does anyone know how to easily bring it up without seeming like one of those psycho girlfriends?
2007-01-09 13:45:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been in a relationship for five years and recently I brought up the topic. Oh boy...did he have a fit. I thought he was a different person. We've never had a problem, don't live together, but frequently stay over one another's place. We have discussed earlier in the relationship that someday we would both like to be married and have maybe 2 or 3 kids. Maybe he was thinking in the long, long run. I think if you are going to bring up the topic make sure you two are alone and in a relaxed setting and just ask? There is no way around this topic.
2007-01-09 15:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open the subject with your parent's marriage. Discuss everything that you know about their marriage. Then have him fill you in on his parent's marriage. Get as many details as he knows. Find out how his dad treats(ed) his mother and you will find out how he will very likely treat you as his wife. Then discuss what his feelings about a "Good Wife". Ask what he is expecting a good wife to be like. Find out what he wants to be doing as far as a family goes and see how that matches your wants and needs. From there you might begin talking about how soon you want to begin having children and a home-life. You will find out very soon how eager he is to begin "NESTING". You should also see how close you and he are in the way of Religious Concerns. GOD is certainly important in a family life. I would think that you both need to be studying the BIBLE together ASAP. I hope that this helps you in some way. Have a great evening.
Eds
2007-01-09 14:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already live with the guy - you already lost out. What does he have to gain by marrying someone he's already been with 2 years? On the other hand, propose to him. If he says no - move on. If you aren't ready for the ultimatum... wait it out and see what happens. If you are nearing the end of child bearing age - that's the best way. Bring up kids - talk about how you don't want to have them unless your married... maybe you guys should talk more.
2007-01-09 13:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple...ask him where he sees the relationship is heading? Does he see the two of you getting married years down the road or still dating. His answer should give you some clue. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-09 14:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one of the first things I would have found out 2 years ago...
2007-01-09 13:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 01:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by bartow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2 years, you should be comfortable asking him anything.
2007-01-09 13:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him..you two should know each other by now
see how he feels about it..
if he freaks out..then you will know..honesty is best..
good luck to you
2007-01-09 13:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a joke with him like hey darling jo blogs asked today when are your going to ask me to marry you.... cause if you don't he will
2007-01-09 13:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Carling 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope ...your gonna be guilty as charged as soon as you say something ...im a guy ....i dont want to here it
2007-01-09 13:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋