My baby father used to call me more before i got pregnant and i didnt see him when i was pregnant and when we would speak over the phone he told me that he loved me and he would be there when i had our baby but he wasnt. we dont live in the same city.my baby is now 3 weeks old and he hasnt seen the baby yet. last time we spoke i asked him if he cared and he said yes and he told me he loved me but i dont know what to believe anymore.
2007-01-09 13:37:51 · 12 answers · asked by leah B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Go see him! (after the baby is a little older) even if he lives far away he need to be a part of this happy (and hard) time for you! also tell him how you feel make him understand!
...and I do hope you are planning a wedding soon
2007-01-09 13:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by uber_kiwi95 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey I know exactly how you fell. I got pregnant in november of 2005, and for the first 3 months everything was going good but when i broke up with baby daddy, we never talked. But then he called out of no where in my eight month and was telling me he's been calling all the time. My baby daddy told me loves me to this day and loved me back then. I let him see his son when he was in the hospital and on an outing, but since then i haven't seen any child support or heard from him or even his family members who claim they love the baby. You need to fo after his butt for child support. My son's now 4 1/2 months old, and like my parents told me, your baby will be alot happier not knowing his dead beat dad. Good luck with everything. Im going after my baby daddy for child support too.
2007-01-09 14:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by lotrelijahwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say it is truely how you feel has he been there for you in a way that would help and not just talking and is he there now. ask yourself these questions if he really wasnt ther for your pregnancy witch it sounds like you only talked over the phone then is he really going to be there as a father. i geuss you can always look at it this way if he becomes a real *** you have the power you have the kid and the ability to go after him for child support. it sounds mean but also think of it this way how is that child going to see you when he/she gets older and him doing this. all you can do is protect yourself and that baby. all that matters is you and that baby not the dad you could take it as him being a sperm donner and also someone who gives you money. im not trying to be harsh but in some ways that wht he sounds like he is.
2007-01-09 13:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by littlebabydoll099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortuntely, this seems to happen a lot. Don't let it stress you out (I know, easier said than done !!) You sure can't force him to come see the baby, and you can't force him to tell you the truth, weather he really does care or not!! He may be scared, alittle. You'll just have to kind of wait and see what happens. Good Luck, hon.
2007-01-09 13:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Denise D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care about you or the baby and obviously does not want to assist you in any way, shape or form to care for the baby. You need to get his name on the birth certificate, get a court order for him to pay child support and don't fall for his line of bulls***. He wanted to play, but he doesn't want to pay for his playtime.
2007-01-09 13:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my baby daddy said the same thing but has down nothing for my daughter..and she 8 months....go get child support
2007-01-09 14:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by breyanasmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for Child Support right now. Get all the money you can get from the deadbeat.
2007-01-09 13:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by crazygurl0203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser... he doesn't love you or the baby... he's just telling you what you want to hear so he doesn't have to deal with his responsibilities. Call a lawyer, hold him responsible financially if he's not going to step-up.
Stay strong... you and your baby deserve better.
2007-01-09 13:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go visit him. if he wants to be part of your baby's life you'll find out then. If he doesn't its best not to force him to be involved. If you need the financial support for your baby tell him but don't pressure him.
2007-01-09 13:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
File for child support, it is obvious that he has someone else why else he won't come to see you or his baby think Swettie!
2007-01-09 13:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by adri012980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋