He has this crazy idea in his head that I'm messin around with an ex boyfriend (I'm not) so he took it upon himself to think he's a free agent to talk to whom ever he wants and do what ever he wants. I have asked him to trust me cause he has nothing to worry about but I can't get him to understand that I'm not cheating on him. Now he's all over MYSPACE/ AOL/ FRIEND FINDERS you name it he's on it..... What do I do?????
2007-01-09 13:37:36 · 7 answers · asked by Peaches 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The two of you have a child together, which means that any and all foolishness must come to an end. He does not trust you eventhough you have pledged your love and loyalty to him? All I have to say about that is "tsk-tsk." As hurtful as it may seem, his mistrust in you is just something that you will have to accept. Not because it is well warranted, but because it is what he feels in his heart and/or is, more than likely, something that has stemmed from guilt that he is probably dealing with at this very moment. (Men and their dirty little secrets...) In other words, be free and leave the poor lad alone so that he can sort out and/or discover his obvious insecurities and mistakes. (Mistake numero uno: taking your love for granted.) If you fail to do so, I think that you will soon find out that he may not be the most suitable boyfriend for you. (Watching a person partake in hurtful and/or risky behavior is one thing, but actually being a victim of it is another story. Do you really want to be a victim of his childish behavior?)
2007-01-10 12:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a serious talk with him. Let him know that you don't like what he is doing. Look in the eyes and tell him that you are not messing around with anyone. Tell him that if he really wants to find someone else, just to let you know so that you can move on. Let him know and make him feel how much you love him. I hope he is not using this excuse, to have an excuse for something he has already done.?I hope everything works out.
2007-01-09 21:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave his cheating *** alone. But your going to get hima second chance. He's going to do it again. Then you'll be back for another answer to wanting to give him another chance. You just need to worry about you and your baby. That is the most important. He isn't your husband. So just move on and get a new man.
2007-01-09 21:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Micka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone and just move on, he's been cheating all alone and just tried to reflect what he's been doing onto you so he wouldnt feel bad about what he was doing and used it as a crutch to break free to actually be open to see who he wanted to see because if he showed that he really believed what he was saying about you cheating then that would give him a excuse to be free again, you have your child to worry about and its better that you are no longer in a relationship with him because he will only continue cheating if you stayed with him...
2007-01-09 21:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he probably won't change.. sorry but it's true. Us women always think we can change men but it rarely happens. Give him a choice, either he respect you and your relationship or there will be no relationship at all. If you allow him to continue to treat you like this, it's exactly what he will do. You don't have to have a relationship with him for him to have one with his child. And if he decides he's not going to have a relationship with his child after all this, he's not worth the trouble anyway.
2007-01-09 21:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by armywifehaney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ge I don't no at this point. would it not have been a good idea to get to no a descent Guy and get married so your child would have a stable loving family. He is good enough to be you child's dad but not good enough to be your husband. you chose him .
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-09 21:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes trying to make you jealous and your falling for it. are you talking to your ex or what gave him the idea that you even might be cheating on him?
2007-01-09 22:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋