I have been married almost 25 years. Husband has cheated then went to porn. He said he had quit, but turned right around and went right back on line to my wife to bring up women. When he wants me it is fine, but if I want him, he can't keep a irrection? I get so depressed I don't know what to do. I am the kind of person that can't just talk to anyone. I need serious help please only serious people
2007-01-09 13:34:01 · 13 answers · asked by CHEROKEE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know where the front door is use it, otherwise kick the cheating bastard out on his ear. Men like him give us honest blokes the same tarred brush, & see questions posted like,
"Why do all men cheat"!
2007-01-09 14:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mosez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you read enough questions and answers here, then you will have a whole new insight on the situation at hand. Start answering questions of the like and keep track of them then look back and take your own advice. Doesnt hurt to try, especially if you find it hard to talk to people about this. You will be amazed at how wise you really are when you are consoling someone else with your same problem. Dont worry honey, this too shall pass.
2007-01-09 14:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need to send him packing.I couldnt imagine my husband perferring the computer over me.I feel for you.25 yrs is a long time,but not long enough that you should just put up with it and not defend yourself as his wife.You need to ask him how would he like it if you went out and cheated on him.If he wouldnt care than that should show you that he obvious doesnt care the way a husband should.Good Luck.
2007-01-09 13:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Chi-Chi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A heart can never stay in a bad situation forever. If you listened only to your feelings, they would tell you that enough is enough. Your heart needs to be adored or set free. Listen to your heart and do not be afraid to move on in life as a single person. Change can be a little bumpy at times, but the freedom is worth some sacrifices.
2007-01-09 13:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make a plan and get out of this marriage. Do you have a way to support yourself? If not, go back to school and get a career.
Your husband like to be in control, which is why when you want it, he can't get an erection.
2007-01-13 13:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a sex addict. A guy who wants to do right by his marriage does so. A guy who is interested in a legitimate sex life with his lawfully wedded wife finds a way to get the matter handled. Buy a clue and get out while you still have life in you to live. Depression is a sign - heed the sign.
2007-01-09 13:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with a marriage counselor, your minister or priest and explain the situation. If you really love him and want the marriage to continue, seek some help. Counseling for the two of you TOGETHER helps.
2007-01-13 12:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to get over it when your husband cheats,you may never get over it,plus the fact that you will never trust him again...Some women stay some go,its all up to you.I think when a man cheats once he will always cheat,and now the porn makes me feel like he is only getting in deeper....Some people suggest counseling but it rarely works.You will know when you are done...when you,ve had all you can take ,then divorce him...everything you two have you will get half
2007-01-09 16:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is too short to spend it depressed over a man even if you have been with him for 25 yrs. You deserve better.
2007-01-09 13:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, it sounds like you are miserable, and should be looking for a way out of that situation. Good luck. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-01-09 13:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋