i'm tired of being the "unpopular kid" in my grade. well, i know i'm not the only one but ya' know. none of the popular kids seem to notice me or even talk to me. how do u think i could become just a little more popular? :(
2007-01-09 13:30:00 · 13 answers · asked by تشاك نوريس 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Who cares weather your popular or not as long as you have good friends now and have lots of fun with them. If not then try talking to the popular kids maybe dress more like them or do something that will make them notice you and please nothing bad.
2007-01-09 13:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by shortstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um first of all I think you should not concentrate on being popular.
Popularity is a very relative and fickle thing. Maybe you should just concentrate on being *more likable* and having more friends(and not the fake ones either). Even trying to be a little more popular is bad because popularity doesn't last long for normal people and is not worth working for.
As a reality check, the 'so called popular kids' already have formed opinions about you; it'll be hard for you to get them to acknowledge you in a positive way.
But if you really insist on trying to be popular, here's a basic list of questions for you to consider when attempting to "become more popular":
*Do you have any thing against you appearance-wise (ex:severe acne, overweight, greasy hair, nerdy glasses)?
*Do you have have any body odor?
*Are the clothes you wear presentable and of acceptable fashion?
*Do you ever attend social functions, such as dances? Do you talk with anybody other than your closest friends?
*Are you a ___________freak (Star Wars Freak, Anime Freak etc.)and obsessive at times?
*Since you're a guy: Have you ever been particularly nasty, gross or lewd toward a girl before?
*When you talk to people, do you make eye contact and smile a little?Or in other words, are you approachable and friendly?
Anyways those are just the basics. But still, you might want to reconsider the whole popularity thing.
2007-01-09 22:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by princessrg88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are concerned with popularity, you could read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. It is an old book and seems pretty shallow to me, but the time that I read it and practiced what it taught I found entirely too many shallow friends.
That is just my experience, you may find some wisdom there.
Personally I think popularity is less important than most think it is.
2007-01-09 21:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by saopaco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you. Don't be someone you are not. Worry about your grades and get your education.After high school you won't see half the people you see now.Popularity is not always a good thing. Easy for me to say , but I've been out fourteen years and have seen only a handful of people that I knew back then. If I could go back I would do things different.
2007-01-09 21:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Fly Boy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Popularity comes with being one's self and embracing the uniqueness that everyone possesses, not by trying to be like the popular kids. I have known this from my own experience, as I have done nothing but be as different from the others as I can be and by doing this, I have made myself fairly popular.
2007-01-09 21:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Rose Thorn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that way early on but soon learned that if I wanted to be one of the bunch, then I had to join in some of the activities.. you have to give people a chance to get to know you.. if you never participate, they will most likely assume that you are either a snob or a goody twoshoes..wimp and so on.. find at least one of them and let that one get to know you first.. make yourself available and to what ever extent they will let you become involved then take it and go from there.. But ALWAYS be yourself.. it has to be good enough take it or leave it.. don't be a phony.. just be yourself and don't shy away from it.. it will serve you well.. and one more thing, always ask if you can join in, get their permission first and go from there..good luck
2007-01-09 21:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by J. W. H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was certainately not popular at school, but I wasn't very unpopular either. Just below average. I was only useful for people (even girls) to make fun of and even bully because I never retaliated. I was just being myself - docile and couldn't be bothered.
Just chill. But don't seem snooty/self-centered/arrogant/etc. ;)
2007-01-09 21:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by The other one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being popular can mean different things to different people. Being popular in your group of friends is way cooler then being popular in "The" popular group because they are not your real friends. Being popular means you veiw yourself in a positive way.
2007-01-09 21:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Meghan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to become more popular. Just be yourself, and make friends with the people who make you laugh, and who you make laugh. I feel that laughter is the key to friendship.
2007-01-09 21:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by lazerybyl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a sport or hobby that you are good at and become BETTER at it. Even if it's not a school sponsored sport.
Almost every Martial Art is admireable.
2007-01-09 21:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋