cant bear to leave the guy who lied to me that he's not married. but in real life he's married with 2 kids. got to know the truth recently. now in a dilemma, confused and hurt. but am i wrong to love him? i really dunno he's married when i'm with him!!! but then i dun wanna lose him... am i wrong to love a married guy? am i wrong to keep thinking of him n the gd times we have? if both of us not wanna let go, r we wrong? both of us gonna get hurt but then is it wrong to love each other n meeting at the wrong time?
2007-01-09 13:23:54 · 11 answers · asked by o_O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Personally, I feel that it is not wrong to fall in love with someone but the fact is if he is truthful to you he will let you know that he is married in the first place and not lied to you.
There is no right or wrong in any relationship but fate plays a very important part in this sort of thing. You can find someone you love very much but he is already attached or married. I suggest that you should really cool down and think over if you want to carry on with this relationship. As we are in Asian country, others may not forgive you for breaking a happy family as you are being seen as the third party who destroy a happy family. But my stand is that there is no right or wrong in any relationship
2007-01-09 17:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong to feel what you feel. You can love the guy and even think about him often. It would be wrong, however, to try to move in on his wife's territory now that you know the truth. She will be hurt when she finds out, but you should not be the one to tell her (chances are, she already suspects). For the sake of his children, you need to let him do the fessing up, if that's what he really wants. I know you don't want to hear it, but I doubt this man has any intention of leaving his wife, no matter what he has told you. Your best bet is to cut off the relationship if it's still going on. If he loves you and wants to be with you, he will have to take the next step and get a divorce. If he doesn't do this, then his feelings are not as strong as he may have lead you to believe. You can go on loving him if you want, but you would be better off to move on with your life, get over him, and find a man that is available to love you back. Good luck.
2007-01-09 21:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who seek out relationships with a person who is committed legally to another person have some subconscious reason why they prefer to stay in a relationship with someone that is not fully available to them.
You began to love him on the false pretense that he was single.
Since your love was founded upon a falsehood, consider that he would probably lie about other things if you pursued a relationship with him. Total honesty and open communications are critical to a healthy relationship.
Be glad he fessed up so you can move on in your life and find someone who won't lie to you. Those good times were all founded upon a lie.
He is wrong to have misled you. He is wrong to have committed adultery. He is wrong to conceal his infidelity from his wife.
If you were to continue the relationship knowing he is married, then you would become an adulterer as well. Do not ever try to break up someone's marriage; you wouldn't want it done to you.
Consider his wife and children's feelings--they need their father, and this man needs to confront his wife and to spill the beans and level with her, so they can get to a marriage counselor and repair their marriage before his infidelities destroy it.
Life is too short to waste it in a dead-end relationship with a loser.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 21:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ivy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he lied to u to get what he wanted off u. now that u know he is married u need to stop seeing him right away. if he will cheat with u, later on if he would leave her, he would cheat on u. don't set yourself up for heartbreak, not to mention it is so morally wrong, and your hurting his wife and kids too, and being selfish. if u know your going to be hurt than why not just distance yourself from him, the bottom line he was married and failed to tell u the truth.
2007-01-09 21:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe you are wrong to love someone who is married but I think it would be wrong to marry him or to become a big part of his life.
I also think he is a jerk for lying to you about his life...it is his fault not yours...
but stay away from him...maybe he is having a hard time at home and wanted someone to love him but still he IS married and that is enough for you to have reason to STAY AWAY!
2007-01-09 21:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by uber_kiwi95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already put yourself in a situation where you're going to get hurt.
You picked a person who is willing to lie and cheat on someone and is not honest obviously..what makes you think that they won't do the same to you
You're not setting your standards high enough
2007-01-09 21:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by lish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine if u did really marry him in the end....what makes u think he wont lie to other women that he is single? He started the relationship with a lie.....thats a no-no
2007-01-09 21:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by NeedHelpGivesHelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please leave him. Trust me, he can bear to lose you, and probably will, as soon as his wife finds out. Find good times with someone else who's not married with children.
2007-01-09 21:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving at the wrong time is always a lesson, and never is wrong when you learn the lesson
2007-01-09 21:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by eleven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dat is kinda wrong cuz he is married and has children. dont u think his children wud be hurt?
2007-01-09 21:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by GT Star_Gyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋