Wonderful husband and 2 kids. We have been married for 10 happy years. Sex about 5 times a year. What does this mean? Should I be worried if everything else is wonderful?
2007-01-09 13:23:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are both satisfied with the amount of intimacy that you share, then you're O.K. If one person is not satisfied, then it needs to be addressed.
2007-01-09 13:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I value sex in our marriage very much. Having said that, if for some reason we could never have sex again....... I would stay with him forever and remain faithful because I loved him long before we ever had sex. We have so many other wonderful aspects to our marriage that matter so much. We can talk for hours or just snuggle and never say a word. We are raising 5 beautiful children together. He is the reason I cannot wait to get home from work every morning. He is the reason we never stay within our text message limits every month. He travels occasionally and we hate being apart. I cannot imagine my life without him. Sex is great but that is NOT what makes a happy marriage.
In my opinion you are truly blessed and should not be worried. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-09 13:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear anyone married over 10 years usually has sex once a month.
I do not fit into this profile. I have been married over 22 years and it better come up 3 to 5 times a week or its coming off! I am told this is high for an average married couple but then I never claim to be average. This works for ME...
Should YOU be worried? Not if it works for you and you are both happy. If you are NOT happy then you need to make a change.
2007-01-09 13:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a bit concerned about frequency of sex or you would not be asking this question. Truth is, every couple is different. I suggest an open conversation. Ask if he is happy with the sexual frequency and tell him if you are not. If you are both happy...then that's all that counts. If you truly LIKE each other and enjoy each others companionship then you have a relationship based on the right stuff and not just sex. Sex is the reason for a season but when the season is over....you better LIKE who you wake up with.
2007-01-09 13:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jan J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the husband and you are both OK with 5 times a year, and everything else is wonderful, you have nothing to worry about. Personally, I'd be pretty unhappy with that quantity in a month, but I'm not in your marriage, you are.
2007-01-09 13:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Computer Jock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be worried, sex is very important in a happy marriage if you have kids sex is the one way that the 2 of you can fully connect and time shared between just the 2 of you
2007-01-09 13:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm never having kids. That sounds awful! Sex is important, but what is important is that both partners are satisfied and can comunicate their needs properly. If you and your husband are okay with having sex only 5 times a year, then don't fret! It's not the amount that counts.
2007-01-09 13:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...SHOULD you be worried? The importance of sex in the marriage depends on the couple...BOTH partners, if you're having a problem with five times a year then you need to discuss that with your husband rather than strangers on an online message board.
2007-01-09 13:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on two things. you and him. Personally, that sounds like my story for 2006 and I silently was considering whether to become an alcoholic or a divorcee. I went with alcohol... but my doctor has suggested perhaps I made the wrong choice.
My new years resolution: "Have more and better sex."
If there's no passion, it's over and you're just not willing to admit it or own up to those feelings any more. People need sex. If he doesn't excite you, seek to understand "why". We'll both work through this.
2007-01-09 13:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too much friend, not enough romance. Some people have a great marriage as friends and not spouse. To turn it into a spouse relationship it has to have a WOW factor. Something the other does to take you to another level. Many people get comfortable supporting and complimenting what the other is rather than taking them to new heights...got to work on that and the sex seems to come naturally
2007-01-09 13:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by eleven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, sex 5 times a year is not ok. Make love to your spouse everyday if you are physically capable of doing so and not ill. My husband just had an affair for that reason. Granted, not all men will not stoop to that level, but men are pretty simple, and i realized that too late, all they want is a clean home, hot meals on the table and a lover in their bed. I failed in the lover in the bed part, and now its too late. And i dont wish that on anyone. Spice it up, do things different and exciting. But whatever you do, please your spouse sexually. Even if it's a "quickie".
2007-01-09 13:40:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋