ahh oral sex and breaking up?

Question

everyone is doing it and my bf wants me to try it on him and he wants to try it one me im trying to send him the message but he is not listening to me. and he has tryed to have sex with me before but when i told him to back off he did. but im afraid to break up with him bc i dont want him to get him to get angry at me a loose him mind. is there anything i can say or should i just stick with him?

well im 14 and know that i shouldnt but having sex or giving/getting oral its gotten so bad i dont want to be alone with him. every time we are alone he starts trying to f*ck me i will scream at him to stop and then he will and later apologize. he was NEVERRRR like this ever so i have no clue what made him so different.

well i dont know if he has an STD/STI bc i know he has been with ither girls and i have braces so i have cuts on my mouth so even with a condom im am way to afraid of getting anything and we have talked about this a lot. and he says he understands but when were alone he yurns into some sex craved monster like until he scores or i smack the s*it out of him.i want to be with him but i want him to desperatly[sp?] stop when i say stop the first time. i feel lik in trapped in a box. i cant leave him b/c the first time i tried to he fractured my elbow. am i going to end up being his sex slave?

were now over after a horrible arguement we had. and he tackled the crap out of me at football practice and later at a party tried to f*ck me again but some of my fave football guys beat him up and stuff but im with a new guy and im not sure if im going to talk to him about this

Answer 1

If he really cared for you he would wait and not pressure you. If he leaves because you wont, he was not ment for you. Sounds to me like he has no respect for you, and you should definataly leave, but you are young and I know he seems like the world to you but believe me when I tell you, you ARE worth more!

Without a condome, you will get sick, because you are opening yourself up to everything, and everyone he has been with. That means if he had a partner with questionable morals, who had something from the ten boys she had been with, you will now have it too. If you do him, and he has been with two people and one of those two had been with 1 and that one had been with 7, you have then did them ALL.!!!

Dont do it honey. I am now dyeing, because I trusted a dog, and we were engaged. You, and your life ARE worth so much more! Did you know that most hookers will not even fu!k with you without a condom! What makes him so special? The thing that comes to my mind reading your story, is the guys with the package who are pissed with wemen because they have it, and want to give it to other women. Watch your back girl..... life is only what you make it. He is far, far, far from worth your life to please him!

If he looses his mind, to bad. Are you scared he will hit you? If you are I cannot emphise enough that you should NOT be with this man. Bc he will hurt you, rapE you, get you sick! BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

15 and talking about oral sex, keep your mouth closed and your panties on, get an education, another boyfriend will "WILL" come along and if everyone jumped off of a bridge you would jump also (that's right I am a mother). Don't let anyone make, suggest or coerce you into doing anything "ANYTHING" you don't want to do. Back in the day all there was to get from early, unprotected sex was an STD that there was some relief from and pregnancy, now look at what is out there. Why would you want to play rush and roulette with your life (your young life). Be smart, think about "YOU". God Bless.

Answer 3

Honestly, you should not do anything that you are not comfortable with. It's not a good idea to have oral sex with him because as you already stated you have braces and mistakes can happen. In a few years one of two things would have happened... either 1 you will have broken and you will be totally over him and regret the fact that you ever gave him oral sex or 2 you will still be with him and you would have appreciated the fact that you waited because sex is better when you are older and you are able to deal with the consequences better.
You are only 14 and you don't want to contract a disease this early in life. It sounds like you are a smart girl for seeking advice and not just letting him take advantage of you. Chances are, he is not the right one for you anyway if he keeps pressuring you.

Answer 4

don't do it! keep him wanting you, men/boys are natural hunters, competitors, conquerors, as long as you keep him wanting you he'll keep trying.don't feel like your losing him if he goes hunting after someone else in the meantime because he probably will but he 'll keep coming back until you give in,but you won't you will also get a chance to see what he does once he captures his game, picture the poor deer head hanging on the wall of some guy who merely wanted to bring his hunting buddies over and brag about it. and think about all the trouble they go through to capture the poor thing.14 is not an age to be having any kind of sex too many negative things can happen to you and you have too much to look forward to i had a baby at 15 i robbed myself of so much teenage stuff prom parties that's just the fun stuff. just tell him no and mean it when you say it if hes your boyfriend now and you haven't been sexual with him then why should you be worried that he'd be angry if you don't do it besides who is more important to you you or him

Answer 5

You sound very young. boys will come and go. You should wait till your old till your ready. He don't love you if he is pushing you to do something your not ready for. He should respect you! I urge you to wait. There are so many risk to having oral sex. And after oral sex he then will want you to have sex and might expect it.
If you have oral sex your taking a chance of changing your life forever b/c of an STD. It will change you if you do. You could even suffer from depression.

Just be honest. That is the most important thing in a relationship. Its OK if he gets upset when you two break up. He will move on and get a new girl and you will move on and get a new boy. There will be tons of relationships in your lifetime.

Hope you make the right choice. You may need to read up on STD's and talk to your mom.

Answer 6

Oral sex is a VERY intimate thing - as intimate as intercourse. And fourteen years old is too young to be doing this. Just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean YOU have to do it. Listen to your inner voice. It is telling you what you can and cannot handle right now.

If your boyfriend had any decency he would not be pressuring you to do something you are not ready to do. Sounds like he's an idiot and you need to ask yourself why to need to be with him.

You know, having a boyfriend is not as important and having the RIGHT boyfriend. Have the confidence to be without a boyfriend for awhile and give yourself a "quiet time." Please find an adult at home or at school to talk.

Be strong and you'll make the right decision.

Answer 7

Why do you want to be with someone that only wants to have sex with you? Do you think he won't dump you as soon as you do it? Do yourself a favor, lose the guy. Don't ever talk to him again either. You're too good for him. He doesn't love you and he crtainly doesn't seem to respect your wishes. I always asked my gf what she thought about it before stepping on "new grounds". I never once tried to force her to do anything. I always made sure that she was ok with what I wanted and if she wasn't i told her that i'd wait. And i did. And it couldn't be a better relationship. Don't stick around with him until he rapes you. Find yourself a guy that makes you feel special.

Answer 8

sweetheart if you have to ask the question then you know this silly boy is not for you . when you are older and find the right person it will come naturally and even if you are not ready a partner will listen if they really want to be with you. Sex is something wonderful between two people who love each other as well as love there should be trust and respect unless you feel this in a relationship please wait till you find the person of your dreams it might not be for a few years but will be well worth the wait. good luck and please take care

Answer 9

OK honey. I'm' 16 to I messed my live up. I have a baby boy named boomer. His dad walked out on us. And say ed never talk to him again and don't think he was going to give us money. I loved I did what ever he want to do I sex when i was ready did things I knew was wrong at the wrong time. Even when u say Ur haven safe sex its not that save. I save sex I have a Cute baby boy I love and a family that won't look at me. So think next time he says I have a comdon u want to? Rember that I did that and look I work all the time I tryed skool and that didn't work. My friends are going to get good jobs and i depened on my boyfriends to take care of my.

Answer 10

You need to talk to your parents. This guy obviously doesn't understand that no means "NO". And he has proven himself to be angry with a short fuse. Do not attempt to handle this alone. Getting your new boyfriend involved would only cause more trouble. Talk to your parents, they will respect you for saying no, and asking for thier help. I respect you for saying no. You and your parents should be very proud of you. Never let someone make you feel uncomfortable in your own skin and get away with it. Stop caring about him and his reactions, focus on caring about yourself and your safety. So far, you've done good. Keep up the good work and don't be afraid to go to your parents for support.

Answer 11

that's the thing, NOT EVERYONE IS DOING IT.
that's a lame excuse he's brought upon you.
why would he lose his mind? Think about it, if this boy REALLY cared for you, he wouldn't waste his time forcing you into things. A relationship involves Two people, therefor Two people make a decision TOGETHER. He does not make the rules, so speak up or else you'll just keep getting bothered about it and eventually you'll give in. Now, you don't want to do that, do you?
Didn't think so.