2007-01-09 13:00:24 · 31 answers · asked by Gregory R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe the children should be a reason to try and work it out but to stay together - no, not if you are both unhappy. If you two are fighting then that is not a good environment for your children anyway. However, as I don't know all the details I can't give you a really good answer but hope I helped a little.
Good luck :)
2007-01-09 13:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, studies do say that children of parents who are miserable and dealing with domestic problems are more likely than children of divorcees to have emotional problems in life. Staying together for the kids is not always the best option and is sometimes the worst. It really depends on the situation and what is making you want to seperate. I can tell you though that a lot of married people have their ups and their downs and times when they can't even stand eachother, but stick it out because that was their goal in getting married in the first place. Obviously, if you or your children are in any danger, the best option is to get out now and worry about the relationship second, but if there's no danger, stick with it even if you're miserable for the next little while. You made that commitment.
2007-01-09 13:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying together for the children without solving the basic problems of the marital relationship doesn't benefit the children. They can sense the tension and possibly hear the arguments you try to keep from them. The more tension in the home the more bahavior problems will develop with the children. You and your husband need to get counseling to solve the problems between you. Most problems in a marriage are related to lack of communication unless there is a specific problem with alcohol, drugs, abuse, or infidelity. Communication problems can generally be worked out with counseling.
2007-01-09 13:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading through your post, several issues come to mind. First though, I have been in the same position with work that he is currently in. I worked six days per week and was gone from home 14-16 hours per day. It wasn't easy for any one. Sometimes you have to take what you can get, when you can get it. - If you want him to assist with something let him know. We men don't always do what wives think we should. We aren't the best at acting on subtle suggestion, but we are trainable. I'd suggest talking it over with him about how you feel, and also let him know his limited time with the family isn't an excuse to limit interaction with his child. Direct communications between the involved parties has always been the most direct route. But, don't expect changes to evolve too quickly, and only ask for one thing at a time then build on that. Good Luck to you both.
2016-05-23 01:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you want to separate...That's a pretty serious thing to do so hopefully the situation is serious. I'm married too with 3 children and for us to separate I think I would really try to work things out first. There's only two things my husband could do that would really make me wanna leave him and not give him a second chance for and that is cheating...and beating....there's no excuse for either. If you reveal more information I could probably answer more thoroughly but I know when there's three children involved it's very important to keep their life as stable as possible. Good Luck!
2007-01-09 13:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to tell because you did not get us any information.
I'm very pro family therefore I would say for the sake of the children, you and your spouse need to sit down and talk things out. Perhaps, marriage counseling would help sort things out.
However, if your spouse is very controlling and is an abusive then it is a different story. There will be other program that will help.......
Good luck
2007-01-09 13:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by solitude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have 3 kids and at times we say about seperating but never do .We have good days and bad days .But the kids help us stay together.We still love each other it's just sometimes we can't sand one another.That happens when your with someone for 10 years.I am happy we stay together and so are the kids
2007-01-09 13:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by forgivealot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three kids... wow. well it seems your in between a rock and a hard place here. Stick it out, for the kids and make some ground rules for you both( you and your spouce) to follow. If that doesnt work, serperate. But if you do, I think your kids deserve to know what this is, and why this happened. After all, the deserve to know the truth, if they are young, it might be a little easier to explain, but make sure they see enough of your spouse so it would be a little easier for them to adapt.
2007-01-09 13:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Juliana Tate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer to that depends a lot on how bad things are. I'll Tell you a Lil story a young man was walking down a country road he sees a old man with his dog sitting on a porch. The dog is howling his head off. The man ask," mister Why is that dog howling?" the other man answers he's a sittin on a old rusty nail. The guy say's well damn why don't he move? The old man replies guess it don't hurt enough yet.
2007-01-09 13:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any valid reasons for you to separate with your husband. It will be a good decision to work it out, you know for the sake of your children. Children are a heritage from the Lord and the fruit of the womb is His reward. BE THERE for your kids, trust me, it's worth to stay in the marriage.
2007-01-09 13:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋