My best friend n i have been best friends since we were on the same soccer team way back in 5th grade and were pretty much the same. Of course, as time goes on, people change. She would shop at Hollister while I'd rather shop at Hot Topic. She listens to rap/pop, while I prefer punk/rock, emo/screamo, whatever you so wish to call it. I never thought this to be a problem though because I'm not one to believe in cliques. We got in a small fight and she started calling me AND my 2 other best friends posers, emo freaks, gothic, and such. I tried to ignore it because after the fight she said sorry, though she never said what for. It's always awkward between us now. We don't talk unless forced to. I'm confused really. It was a dumb fight and even after it, the name calling didn't stop. We're still posers and gothic freaks as she says. What do I do? Try to patch up our friendship or forget about her completely. Please help?
2007-01-09 12:52:01 · 10 answers · asked by LOSTragedii XX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just as you told me. There is a reason she may not be in your future. You might need her which is why you still talk a little, but only need her for the smallest thing that only she can wedge into. I, myself hate nametags. Specially from other people who either, dont know what it is, or was it once. But moving on is also a good source. You have tried to be her friend after past fights right? And it worked. But maybe now it didnt work for a reason. I totally understand about the people changing thing. I personally thing if that person calls you name tags, they have NOTHING better to do. I mean really..."Lets sit down and think about what I can call this person for the next hour." Yea okay...have fun with that u noe?
I wouldn't beat myself up over all of this drama. Obviously you both are now into totally different things. So maybe occasional "hi's and bye's" will be fine. But not to try and be all buddy buddy, when you both have totally different personalitys.
Talk to me ANY time.
2007-01-10 07:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by miseryxlane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not a good friend if she cannot accept differences between the two of you. I would not hang out with her anymore. I have friends that I have had since 7th grade and we have been out of school for almost 20 years now and still talk all the time and travel to see each other. Even though we have changed a lot over the years we still get along great. Hang out with your other friends.
2007-01-09 13:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. Just because you were close with someone at some point in your life, it doesn't mean you are going to stay friends forever, that's just the way it is. Because the person used to be important in your life, it would be a positive to get to a point where you are comfortable acknowledging each other at least, but time is the only way that's going to happen if it does. I'd take the high road and not insult her back, just go on a find people to associate with who you share common interests with and that you respect and who repect you back.
2007-01-09 14:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Edward K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a lot of space has been put between the two of you - like you hang out with totally different kinds of people. It appears that your fight may have caused her to admit what she's been thinking all along (not that she was right or wrong). If I were you, I'd just move on. I'd keep things cordial between the two of you, don't become like serious enemies or anything, but you don't need to force friendship. People often choose different paths during life - it doesn't make either of you bad people.
2007-01-09 12:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by crank726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need that trust me I am going through the same thing with my friends they call me a poser because I hang out with some preps and goth/punk/emo people and they ignore when we walk in the hall and talk to each other its a pain you just have to stop being here friend hang out with other friends and eat lunch with them. It is very hard to do but I am happy without them and you will be happy without here if she is really a good friend she will come back and apoligize but I wouldn't count on it.
2007-01-09 13:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have outgrown one another. Best friends don't call each other names. Maybe ya'll need a cooling off period.
2007-01-09 13:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks ! better start looking for a new friend!
2007-01-09 13:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by Reaper G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another friend..
2007-01-09 12:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jocko 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
beat the crap out of her
2007-01-09 12:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by daytonwiederstein 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I deff. think that you should forget about her. just don't like be enimies or wut not. bc she's doing that to me now and i just want to be like well screw u, u know? so that's wut i'm doing. lylas.
2007-01-10 13:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by xendlessecretsx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋