Please read what I wrote first?

Question

I post several times yesturday and some of you did not read the few previous posting and jumped into the conclusion.

Please read my previous posting then, you would understand why I did what I did.

For an 13.5 year old child to use " F" word towards her mother and slapped her mother on the face. How would you guy handle the situation with your child.

Answer 1

I don't usually condone physical violence, but if my daughter did that, I'd tan her hide and she'd think twice before doing it again.
But, I've never harmed my daughter, so it would really make a point.
If you've hit her often as punishment, your really just teaching her it's okay to hit when angry.

Answer 2

I do not approve of any child, any age using foul language towards their parent. I also do not approve of any child, regardless of age, slapping their parent.

Children should respect their parents, no matter how they feel. I would never, ever disrespect my parents that way nor would my children disrespect me in that way.

Children learn by example, so this child has seen this behavior somewhere. There also might be a chance that there is something else wrong, maybe physically, like ADD which can be helped with medication.

To answer your question on how I would handle it, I would try to communicate. Talk with your child, explain that what they did was wrong and why it is wrong. Find out where they picked up such behavior and again expain why it is wrong. Repetition of this process daily is recommended.

Answer 3

It's obvious that you have lost control with your child. You should have disciplined ( whooped ***) when necessary in the beginning. I have a 13 year old as well and he acts nothing like that. If he was to raise his hand to me....

You need to have a talk and try to start over with her or him. The controlling stuff isn't going to work because the more you take away and the more you yell, then the more they will hate you and rebel. No matter what, you must try to be understanding and listen. Maybe something else is bothering them. But, calling the police and boot camp or any of those options shouldn't even be considered unless he or she is stealing or killing animals (you know crazy stuff).
This is your child who is obviously lost a connection with you somewhere and you need to try to get it back reasonably. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I have a just turned 14 yr old daughter and I have to say she has never done that.... we have alot of arguments but if she ever did that to me I'd have to say it would have to kill me as a mother to know my daughter hated me so much, to say such a thing to me and then slap me!!! Where is the respect here? Do you have any in your home? I'm not saying you do or don't show it back to your daughter but this anger is stemming from somewhere here.... and the way I'd fix it would be not to dwell on this to much and start by talking more to her and doing things together like going to church and maybe being more closer than you are my daughter is sassy alot but she knows what she can do... and cant!!!! Good Luck

Answer 5

First, the mother needs to lay down the law and let her know who'd boss. Apparently she knows that her mother won't do anything to her. Now my mom would have knocked the living crap out of me if I did that and I am the only girl out of 4 children. Also, if you take a child to the jail and let a cop talk to her and show her around the jail house, it might be enough to stop the abuse. It worked for my nephew.

Answer 6

I think that you are doing all that you can do. Youa re right for wanting to know where she is and I think that 13 is still way too young to have that much independence. That is middle school age. She is no where near understanding what is out there and how to take care of herself. She needs to learn that you are the parents and you are just trying to make sure that she stays safe. She can make her own mistakes of the caliber in high school and she will make plenty of mistakes in college. Just keep it up...its not popular but it is what is best.

Answer 7

well i would not hit the kid i would get her some bad punishments though like what he likes most take away and dont let her see his freinds or nuthing and one of the worst ppunishements ever id no from experens make her sit on the flor all day with only 2 meels a day for about a mounth with nuthing to do exsept twidel her thumbs it sucks so if ya want to i sugjest something omnge thoughs lines

Answer 8

If I were the father, my first thought would be to spank the kid.. experts that condone spanking suggest 2 quick but firm smacks on the butt. If you are not the child's father, it could be used against you as 'child abuse' depending on the relationship with the child and the child's mother.

I'd say take away all fun (tv, radio, friends, etc.) that used to make me so mad when my parents did that..

good luck!

Answer 9

personally i would take everything she treasured and lock her in her room until she was ready to come out and apologize to you. how dare she raise a hand to you that's assault.
if parents can get arrested for assault why cant children?
tell her the next time she hits you the police will be involved.
my sister went to a girls home for being uncontrollable you could send her there if she becomes the same tell here that she will be scared it scared me enough to respect my parents.
when she comes out of her room ready to apologize then you can reason with her. refuse to argue with her yes is yes and no is no that's my policy never give in. give her a choice do what your told or suffer the consequences of your actions. good luck hope this has helped you

Answer 10

oh that is bad. I dont have kids but before I beat him I think you better realize it could be bad influence from other kids.
I would suggest looking into his friends to see if that is part of the problem.
This kind of behavior will get him in big down the road.
You could always call police on him and have him arrested for assualt and battery just to scare him straight.