i can't stop thinking about the man i'm having an affair with...my husband is very loyal and i know loves me a lot, but i feel that i am drifting away. the thoughts of never seeing the man i am having an affair with hurts as much as the thought of ending my marriage. i am at a big loss...any advice?
2007-01-09 12:47:37 · 20 answers · asked by feelingconfused77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow - everyone is being so mean... maybe i should explain a bit more. i have been with my now-husband for ten years and we finally decided to get married. i know having the affair is wrong and that this man would probably never love me as much as my husband, but i just don't feel connected to the man i married anymore, i feel we have grown apart in a big way and i don't know what to do since i feel very connected to this new man.
i'm really a good person, not a whore, never cheated before...
2007-01-09 15:11:29 · update #1
Please end the affair immediately if there are future for you two. The affair only an exciting phrase that you think you want. However, when the phrase is OVER........There will be a price that you will be paying. Please think it carefully before things get out of hand.
If you are not in love with your husband, you need to sit down and have an conservation with him. Your husband desert to know the truth even if it hurt him.
Hope it help
2007-01-09 13:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by solitude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is a loyal husband like you say,than atleast do your part and let him go so you can have the man you really want. And Your husband now will find a someone that loves him as much as you love this other man.
2007-01-09 20:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by L i C H A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I think U should confess to ur husband and then leave him, as for U , the other man is more important than ur husband. So whats left in ur marriage.No point cheating ur husband as he loves and sees a future wth U.Sort out things and U will be free from this bond as U wanted it this way. Good luck
2007-01-09 21:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Prav 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So your are screwing over your husband, who obviously has done nothing to deserve this. You are so f****d up. What happens if you leave your husband for this new guy and things don't work out ? Now what, you are going to do, go running back to your husband so he can be your security blanket until the next d**k comes and screw him over emotionally, yet again in the process, disrupting your husband's new life, preventing him from getting over the hurt and pain you will have caused him to endure and from finding someone loyal, decent and much better than you ? You are selfish. Get a divorce, and never, ever get married again. Don't even go to a wedding if your invited. Is this other guy married ? I hope he is screwing around on you, if he is married, I hope his wife finds out and clean the sidewalk with your skank a**, in other words I hope she whips your a**, I hope this other guy will turn out to be everything you hoped he wouldn't.
2007-01-09 21:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'd stay with the man you married. Marriages can always be fixed. You loved him enough to marry him. You should stay by him. Imagine the heartache he will feel after being married for six months then this! You should tell him you are having an affair. See if it's worth while to hang onto you. I'm not trying to be mean if I am coming across that way.
2007-01-09 20:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
how are you at a big loss? you at a big loss? you have only been married for six months. you can divorce this sweet loving and loyal man and be with the with your lover who doesn't even love you. you never mentioned how much he loves you and wants to marry you. ain't gonna happen is it. you say you are at a loss. only you are a loser. leave your" husband "so he can be loyal to someone else who will appreciate him and love him . you should of never married him if you were going to be stupid.(for him ) good riddance.
2007-01-09 21:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Torn between two lovers? You're breaking the rule. How would you feel if your husband is having an affair with another pretty girl? Will you get hurt?
DO NOT DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU DON'T WANT OTHERS TO DO UNTO YOU.
2007-01-09 21:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you need to discuss your doubts with your husband. it sounds like youre not ready for marriage. either end the affair or end the marriage before things get more complicated and more people are hurt. let him get on with his life with someone who loves him
2007-01-09 20:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by katlady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah!!!
I think you're a scandolous b*tch!!!,you have a loving and loyal husband,that loves you, and what do you do,cheat on him after only six months!!!! do you know how many woman would kill to have a loyal and loving husband!!!! I hope you believe in karma
what goes around comes around,I hope he finds out packs,throws you out,so you can be with your lowdown lover,what you don't stupidly realize,the scumbag that you're cheating with will do the same thing to you!!!!! it's dummies like you that make it hard for women like me to find a good man!!!
2007-01-09 20:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by msalb 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Having an affair to me means you would have given up on your marriage, why not just finish it.
2007-01-10 00:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by maleinaus 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋