Okay so my friend, I'll call her K, has a huge problem and I really want to help but I cant tell anyone and I have no idea what to do. Her mom is really mean and abusive, and she hits her sometimes. The other day she threw her at a wall and hit her and she still has the bruises. And every time she tries to talk to her about it, her mom says that she never hits her at all. And the thing is if she tried to tell a doctor or something, they probably woulnt believe her cause she cuts her self sometimes. So is there any way that I could help? Sorry if its long, theres more but im trying to make it short as i can.
2007-01-09 12:35:21 · 20 answers · asked by Wesley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay um to anyone who is wondering, by "I cant tell anyone", I mean anyone at school. No one knows my yahoo address anyway, I use road runner email and AIM.
2007-01-09 12:51:38 · update #1
Tell her to tell someone! Immediately! She can tell a doctor, a teacher, her school counselor or a parent. Just tell her to pick someone she trusts and tell them. It needs to be done immediately because these situations often escalate. You don't want her to end up in the hospital or worse.
2007-01-09 12:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Connie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of perhaps losing her friendship, talk to someone at your local human services office, starting with adult protective services. If its truly that severe and she is a minor, someone will step in and at the very least, require them to get counseling. Her mother is either a serious abuser or mentally off the beam and in either case, your friend really needs some help she obviously can't find for herself. If she is cutting herself, the situation with her mother could easily be WHY. Call and ask what can be done. It can often be handled anonymously as well, so its worth a try. The sooner this is stopped, the better chance your friend has of not carrying this bad situation around with her past its current point. Think of it as being similar to pulling a child out of the street and away from an oncoming car. Take a deep breath and give it a try; its deeply serious. Hopefully, your friend will be in a better position after someone steps in to help.
2007-01-09 12:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by gamerathon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the mom has a mental condition of some kind. There's nothing you can do about it, except try to find the mom help. As for your friend, there are anonymous phone lines available to call for help. The best thing for your friend to do would be to stop cutting, then ask for help after the scars have started to heal. If there is physical abuse, and the dad(or male figure in the house) doesn't step in, you may have some course of legal action.
2007-01-09 12:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell someone. I think that the doctor would believe her because this is something very serious and a lot of times people who cut themselves is do to some kind of negative thing going on in their lives. They cut to relieve the emotional pain. If a doctor is told something like this, they can't just say they don't believe the person, they would need to do some kind of investigation on the situation. So, I would go with her to the police or a doctor ASAP and let someone know NOW!
2007-01-09 12:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by dazzling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just start that it is not your friend that has a problem but your friends mother. She is the one that really needs professional help and the only way to do this is to call the children services or even the police. Her mother obviously doesn't believe that she is doing anything wrong and if she does then during her fits of rage can not remember what she does.
Both of these are big problems that need to be addressed
2007-01-09 12:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl is still in school tell a teacher they are obligated to report it.
Otherwise you can call a dss hot line and not leave you're name. Do something there are a lot of social services agencies that can help
look in you're local phone book for teen help lines or under child abuse. If this girl has been cutting her self she should be in therapy its a clear sign of abuse and she is in desperate need of professional help
2007-01-09 12:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by ingsoc1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to give encouragement to your friend by listening to her problem but try to find out other side of the coin. You might be way ahead of what's really happening at your friend's home. If you can find the courage, talk to her mom yourself before doing anything that could blow up a quarrel between a mother and daughter that went awry.
2007-01-09 12:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Willie Boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 22:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by kuhlmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to convince K to get help. She shouldn't be living with a so-called mom that abuses her. And she cuts herself too. She really needs help, now. Maybe you could try telling someone at school and they could help.
2007-01-09 12:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off start taking pics of the brusies so you can document them. She may cut her self and that is for a counciler to help her but her mom has no right to beat her daughter i dont care what shes done. her mother would probably get better resuslts witha little love and support not abuse and if shes afraid to say something talk to youre parents and ask them for help. im sure they would help if they knew the sistuation.
2007-01-09 12:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋