She added "It's his house." How could a counselor say such a thing. I think that my BF's actions were clearly inappropriate.
2007-01-09 12:24:25 · 10 answers · asked by Cas 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are correct, but the counsellor is telling you what the law says. If you had done anything, such as attack the lady, you would have been in the wrong and not BF or his "friend".
All I can suggest is you get a new BF, the law says you can dump the old one for any reason you like.
2007-01-09 12:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be someone putting down poison about him,confront him face to face and watch his reaction,if you think he's still not telling the truth,finish it and do not reply to emails,texts or calls.Go out with a mate for a drink and or meal and enjoy yourself,let him know you're doing just fine without him.
2016-05-23 01:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your boyfriend explain the situation to you as to why she was over? Could have been they were classmates and having a study session.
If you don't like your counselor, shop around for a new one, but if you do like her and just don't like that she said that, she may have her reasons for saying that to you (to see how you react to her, to help you grow more as a person if she knows you are usually overly suspicious of others, etc)
It really all depends on what him and that other woman were doing. You should be able to trust you boyfriend if he says he was just studying with her. If you cannot bear the though of other girls in his home, you should maybe just request that he tell you when he has other females over... and see how that flies.
2007-01-09 12:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Elysia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Err.. It depends on how you found them. And on technical and lawful terms, what the counselor said was true. It's not a counselor's job to tell you what you want to hear or to agree with you. Remember: They give you PROFESSIONAL opinions, not personal ones.
2007-01-09 12:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be his sister, a neighbor, his mom, an aunt, old friend, mom's friend, friend of the family. It is his right. As long as he isn't doing anything sexual with her. Get the whole story first. You never said if you saw them doing anything, so i'm left to assume that you don't have the whole story.
2007-01-09 12:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, were they just hanging out or doing something more? If the were just hanging out he has every right, but if he was cheating, then there is a problem, confront him about it, and if he's a good boyfriend, he will tell you the truth.
2007-01-09 12:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what were they doing..?? if all they did was work on a project... and you saw their work in front of them.. or all they did was watch a football game.. then it's probably very innocent... and his right... IF on the other hand you walked in on them doing something outrageous.. then you need a new counselor...
2007-01-09 12:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, on one hand, i see her point. i think what she was trying to say was that it is his house so he is free to have people over, no matter who it is. however, she should've tried to be more understanding, because it is innapropriate. even thought its his right, there is clearly evidence of him crossing the line. it sounds like you need to find a counsler that is more understanding.
2007-01-09 12:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's his house and it's his life. You want a committment, but are you sure he wants one?
2007-01-09 12:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your conselor didn't say that what he did was right, she said it was his right. He doesn't sound very nice, if he's rude enough to do that.
2007-01-09 12:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Nick R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋