Help with high school....?

Question

I'm a freshman this year in highschool, and its not very fun. All my friends are in different classes except one, and i only know one or two people in lunch. Plus i'm horrible at starting conversations, so there are alot of akward moments. Alot of my friends changed too, and it just seems like there just moving away to new friends, and just ignoreing me. I'm not friendless, but since my highschol is so big, its really hard to make new friends because i'm sorta shy and can't really think up things to talk about. Does highschool get better, or will it always be kinda akward?

Thanks for any answers :)

Answer 1

Dudet, I know how you feel. I was a freshman once too. It's hard. But don't worry High school gets way way way better later on. If you can contact with your friends to meet soemwhere. Join a club those are fun and you get to meet new friends too. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

This kind of stuff happens a lot - not only in high school, but throughout life. You have a great set of friends, but then things change and you move on and meet new friends. I'd recommend you look into joining the Yearbook committee. You'll get to go around school taking photos (everyone loves getting their photo taken for the yearbook) and writing stories and you'll meet other kids in different grade levels. It's also a good idea to join a sports team or a club. That way you expand your group of friends. Good luck. Here's a quote from a song that Paul Simon wrote:
"When I think back to all the crap I learned in high school, it's a wonder I can think at all!"

Answer 3

Everything you say doesn't have to be fascinating. Just make small talk about any old stuff - TV, gossip about people at school, funny things that happened in class, etc. Do things with school-mates outside school. Invite a few people to see a movie or just go and hang out at the mall on saturday. Just look in the stores, watch people go by, etc, its unimportant what you do. Its just a way of getting away from your parents and being with people your own age. If you hang out in a big group, you don't need to talk all the time and you can learn how other people chat and dress and behave etc, what's fashionable and what's not, etc.

Take the initiative. You could try inviting people from the groups that you're already part of, such as a sports club, to go places and do things. How about organising a party or barbecue at your house or something or going roller-skating or ten-pin bowling or something.

To get to know people, start gradually by making small talk about ordinary everyday things. A good book to read is "The Pocket Guide to Making Successful Small Talk : How to Talk to Anyone Anytime Anywhere About Anything" by Bernardo J. Carducci. Ask your parents to buy one or two books if you need them. Tell them its important and it will help you fit in and make friends instead of being not very happy for ages.

If a person seems friendly, you can move on to let them know about your interests and other friends and people that you know. You then might arrange to do something together another time, hang out at your house, go window-shopping at the mall or chat by Instant Messenger or SMS.

If you want to get to know boys, either now or in a year or two, see the link to a good flirting guide. Then ask for more advice on here.

To get on with class-mates, dress the same and don't be too straight-laced, doing everything adults tell you. Be a bit of a rebel, breaking the odd school rule, but not an extreme rebel getting into trouble with the law. Try to fit in. Don't show off in class or be super-keen to answer teacher's questions.

If you hit any specific problems, ask for more help and advice on here or ask friends. People love to give advice, so it might make your friendships stronger.

Answer 4

i'm a senior in high school, and it'll get better. while you and your middle school friends may drift apart, you'll make plenty of other friends that are just as great. a good way to break the ice and make new friends is to ask the person next to you about a problem you're working on in a class where you don't know many people; asking how they got the answer to #2 on the hw can get you another great friend!

high school can be fantastic, but it can also REALLY suck at times. just keep a positive attitude and do your best! good luck! : )

Answer 5

No one can really answer that question. When i was in high school i felt like that and my mom said it will gett better next year, every year from grade 7 up. I wish i had an answer. I think the longer you go without finding somewhere to fit in the harder it gets though. At least it sounds like you have a few friends to invite you to the parties because without that becoming part of the crowd is all the harder.

Answer 6

Things will get better. Hang in there. Just be friendly and try being a little more outgoing. Don't do things that you don't agree with just to make friends. Try joining a sport or choir or drama class or whatever your school offers, extracurricular activities are a great way to make new friends! Good luck!

Answer 7

it gets better and better over time

keep trying to make friends in your classes, even if you have to ask someone about homework when you already know what's due

and also, try joining a few clubs (I know it's already half way through the year and you're shy, but at least try)

if that doesn't help, in my high school the guidance counselors had a club for shy kids where all these shy kids made friends and formed their own group. try to find out if there's one at your school.

and chin up! you'll be having fun in no time. :)

(P.S. Kids change pretty often in high school and nothing seems stable until junior/senior year.)

Answer 8

i am a freshman too and in the beginning of the year i was like you i had no friends: all of my friend are at another school and my two best friends moved to a different state. but i am in too the 2nd semester and i have now made many friend and i hope to make more. just stay positive it gets better. good luck and i hope you find someone to be your friend.... i think that i would. hope all goes well.

Answer 9

I just started my freshman year also...and going through the same stuff......but im thinking that it will get better...youll get more classes...and maybe make some new friends...i am very shy also, and its hard to make friends for me too....until our teacher gave us partners to work with in a project...we have become good friends..
so its possible

hope it kinda helps

Answer 10

Trust me it gets better. But you are gonna have to open up this shell of yours and let some people in. Get out make some friends. There are millions of things you could talk about...how about your school..see there is a start