i want to get married 1 day, im 21 and been wiv my boyfriend for 4 years, we have got a 2 year old son and my boyfriend says he wants to spend the rest of his life wiv me but does not want to get married, we are still very much in love, i just dont under stand.xxx
2007-01-09 12:02:36 · 12 answers · asked by emma w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he loves you, he'll marry you. If he refuses too, you can move on. He may think that you wouldn't therefore, he doesn't need to marry you. Your child is illegitimate and I guess he doesn't care about that fact. Four yrs. and no marriage. Sounds like a cop out to me. Stop wasting your time.
2007-01-09 12:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by noitall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and got married 2 years ago. We dont have any kids yet but it was just a decision we had to make together.
Do what is best for yall as a couple. Dont get married because of your child but do what is best for the child at the same time. Marriage is not the same as dating some things may change for the better or for the worse. Do yall live together? If so then you might as well be married. What is the point. Some men or women do not want the responsibility of being married because they are scared or their parents or family has made mistakes in the past dealing with marriage. Just talk it over and dont waste to much time with someone who doesnt have or respect the same goals or dreams that you have!
Good luck
2007-01-09 20:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by princesandy2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but, forget love here. YOU and your CHILD have no legal protection as long as you are NOT married to your boyfriend. He could leave, at any time, and you would get NO financial support from him. And that would hurt you, but mostly hurt your child.
He needs to recognize his responsibilities to you and his son. Marriage is the ONLY way to do this. Do not depend on words like "spend the rest of your life with someone." THAT could change tomorrow. And without marriage, you will have nothing.
I got married at 18, still married after 30 years. So do not tell me "the two of you are too young."
2007-01-09 20:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why? JK. I think most 21 year old gals want to get married one day don't rush it. If your b/f wants to spend the rest of his life with you what does it matter if your married or not. It's just a piece of paper when you get down to it and sometimes a very expensive piece of paper. Would you feel any different toward your b/f if you were married or not. I think it's more impressive to be with someone because you want to not because you are legally tied to them. Holds more credit. Taken from someone who has been married before got divorced and is very happily with her b/f of six years with a two year old son also and another son on the way. All the best : )
2007-01-09 20:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lambchop 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may not want to get married b/c he doesn't agree w/ the whole officialness of it or something? Some people don't want to get married, but they have people that they want to be w/ for ever. Maybe it seems to stressful to get married? Maybe he doesn't think that you need a piece of paper to show you love each other? You could also just have a little ceremony, nothing official. Or like the person above said, it might be the money. You could have a very small wedding. I dunno. After 10 years of being together you're officially considered married, just so you know. Sorry that I'm not much help.
2007-01-09 20:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Soccer Lover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you have a good relationship now dont push for marriage you are still young. The fact that you had a child together at a young age and did not seperate because of that shows you are mature. Try talking to him, maybe about getting engaged for starters. Good luck!
2007-01-09 20:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Despite men being with us, they're not truly with us!!
Confused?
OK. When we're attached, the man becomes part of our life. We shop, learn, socialize, work and have a man in our lives..
on the other hand,
HE - socializes, works, plays computer games and tries to please you...........he however, still looks at the future. He always compares, thinks alot about 'what if' and likes to keep his option open. Sounds bad, I know but true most of the time.
We invest more into a partner than what they invest into us.........
When he's ready, you'll know. Don't push him to marry - why MAKE someone marry you? It will be more of a compliment when he decides himself..........good luck
2007-01-09 20:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if it is just about the money. If it is, and you have a very small budget, just get married at a justice of the peace or have a very tiny wedding with a BBQ reception or something. Getting married is about being and love and sharing the rest of your lives together...it's not about the wedding.
2007-01-09 20:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do people need the piece of paper, you can do the vows with out a preacher or judge, you can live happily ever after and never walk down the aisle
2007-01-09 20:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I as a man understand where he is coming from marriage isnt all it is cut out to beBut at the same time if that is your wish then i say that either you should tell him your wishes or find someone who is willing to marry you.
2007-01-09 20:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by billy b 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋