we started out as friends then about 6 mts ago we agreed to be friends with benefits at my request..it worked out ok I guess he saw other people and so did I...then we started doing more things together at his request like fishing, going for long drives etc"less sex" then about 2 weeks ago he tells me "i know what we agreed on but i have feeling for u" I told him I had feeling for him too..but now I'm a little scared we get along so well as friends...i just wounder if the way we stared could cause a problem in the later...he does things like call me 1 to 2 times a day...he finds reasons to call me and i can tell he wants nothing...he took me to meet his grand parents and they were calling me daughter in law and they were telling me how much he likes me and how much he talks about me...he likes to take me to the park and he finds a reason to touch me or put his arms around me or pick me up...I like him a lot too...I'm just afread if it's worth the risk...we are already taking a big one
2007-01-09 12:01:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What's the risk? If you like him and you enjoy the non-sexual activities with him, then there's no reason to not be in a relationship. It doesn't mean you have to be committed to him. That comes after you establish somewhat of a relationship and you agree to be monogamous to each other. Take it one step at a time. It seems like you're already doing the relationship thing together.
2007-01-09 12:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi :) I think in life we need to take risks otherwise we may lose our chance...if you like him go for it! it sounds like he is a nice guy and yes i can understand you are afraid but don't let fear stop you from enjoying something that could turn out beautiful. Yes it may not work out but wouldn't you feel better knowing that you at least too a risk and tried it out rather than letting it pass you. Because i'm sure if he started liking someone else you would feel sad a bit so try it and good luck :) I hope everything works out for you....as the quote says it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all (not sure who the author of the quote is?) something similar happened to me and I regret not taking action!
2007-01-09 12:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it may be worth the risk. He obviously has deeper feelings for you and you've already been together, so what is the big deal with deepening the relationship? You have a solid friendship base, that can only help matters.
2007-01-09 12:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're hedging your bets. Life is way more exciting if you just go for it. If you wait for the moment to be right you will wait forever.
My wife of 18 years is my best friend. I don't understand why people think that when you become "boyfriend girlfriend" or "married" that the friendship ends. To me that is when it really begins.
Sounds like you two hit it off pretty well - it's worth a try - I'd say GO FOR IT!!!!
FP
2007-01-09 12:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pals with advantages is the time era utilized to those that're sexually in touch yet not emotionally in touch. the belief is that those human beings could have intercourse with one yet another (or achieveable regardless of people) and no person "gets their emotions harm" simply by fact this is in simple terms meant to be a stable time. lots of the time this association does not artwork out simply by fact one or the two between the members improve some type of emotional attachment besides. Then while the different guy or woman does something that isn't kosher with this new emotional involvement, it finally ends up in harm emotions. it is likewise each so often used as the thank you to "carry on" to an ex, yet this type of questioning is very nearly constantly going to consequence in harm emotions.
2016-10-30 11:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it but it does sound like a risk but if you two are feeling each other trust me I had the same little problem but hey it worked out cause we met what we said to each other and no the word love didn't hook us together just the fact that we were really liking each other like he said to you and what you said to him go for it it sounds like it's time to take it too the next level.He sounds like a great guy like me other wise he wouldn't have let you met his grandma think about it.Good luck!
2007-01-09 12:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by tino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was about to say drop him, but after reading your story he really does like you and it seems that by your behavior, you like him as well. You have to decide whether or not its time to take that step with him, we cannot. If you are uncomfrtable and not ready let him KnoW that and dont make a move. If you need more time to make a decison then tell him and take your time. If youre ready, then go for it.
2007-01-09 12:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends make the best partners. You've done well as friends, and as friends with benefits. Making the move to dating isn't a far one for you guys. The hardest part is moving to the physical, which you already have. Have fun with it!
2007-01-09 12:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date him if u like him too. Go for it.
2007-01-09 12:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both like each other than go for it.
2007-01-09 12:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by dmstanley02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋