Ive been married for 3 months and have a baby with him. My husband is an alcoholic. Hes had a DUI etc in the past 2 years, comes home drunk about every 3 days, sometimes doesn't even come home. It has become a real problem for us, we fight constantly about this. I think ive fallen in love with his brother over time and im pretty sure he likes me as well. We are perfectly suited for eachother and get along great. Would we ever be able to persue a relationship and not be frowned upon by the family if I completely called it off with his brother?
2007-01-09 11:15:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should do whatever you think is right for your child and if you secide to leave you should wait a little bit and then see what hapens with his brother. You shouldnt sacrafice you or your childs happiness, because your husband screwed up. Do whatever you think is right for you and your child. Good luck
2007-01-09 12:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by TwoplusTwins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it isn't unusual for someone to have a glass of wine with dinner every night, but to drink 3 glasses every day after work implies that it is more a habit than a nice taste with food. That he drinks a lot more on weekends may mean he has lost, or is losing, control of his drinking. You need to insist that he stop drinking to get buzzed. My guess is that he'll resist and say he doesn't have a problem, which means YOU have a problem. If he refuses to stop or cut back, make a call to a local rehab clinic or Alcoholics Anonymous to ask for professional advice. If he is an alcoholic, I wish you well, but you are in for some difficult times ahead.
2016-05-23 01:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You KNEW hubby was a drunk when you married him 3 months ago. Now you want to start sleeping with his brother- so you suddenly find you don't like being with a drunk. Besides having the hots for Bro in law, what else has changed? You SHOULD end the relationship with your husband. A wife that is hoping to end up with a different guy SHOULD get divorced. Forget ending up with hubby's brother. There is NO possible way that'll happen, unless his brother is as silly as you, and I say silly, cuz even asking if you could end up with him was silly.
2007-01-09 11:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you aren't suggesting that the family will encourage your relationship with the brother? Of course they will frown upon it! It's a given. You might completely destroy the relationship the brothers have. Is that worth it? Why don't you help your husband with an intervention or something? Give it a 100% first mostly because you have a child by him. If you didn't, well, it would very different! Good luck.
2007-01-09 11:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think it is morally right to pursue the brother. Even though your hubby sounds like he is an alcoholic. I would tell him to go to AA and sober up or it is over. Maybe if he weren't a drunk you could work things out. If he doesn't change divorce him but stay away from the brother it is taboo to do that even in this day and age. Find a nice guy who isn't your husbands relative and move on.
2007-01-09 12:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey - let me get this straight. You've only been married 3 months? Your hubbie got that DUI before you married him and made a baby. You are making some bad decisions and they are affecting not just you- but your child.
Slow down and think. Use your brain. How about getting your husband some help? Does he admit that he is an alcoholic? Does he want to change?
If you break it off with him my advice is to look outside of that family for your next liason. Give them a break. They have enough problems.
2007-01-09 11:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by peggy j 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you should have had a clue that he had an alcohol problem before you married him. Leaving him for his brother sounds like a very bad idea. It's highly unlikely that your in-laws would be happy with this. You really need to think this over. If you do get with his brother, his family will probably resent you. This will create big problems. Then he will probably end up resenting you. You'll create wedges in their family. I hope you're not some sick person who would get off on that.
2007-01-09 19:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is in the best interest of yourself and your baby, and the family will understand, becasue if they know what kind of husband you have, deep down inside they also want the best for you and your baby. It will be difficult, but hang in there and go with your heart, Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-01-09 11:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and take your time with his brother. In time it might become a relaionship. If you are a good person and don't look like you just jumped in bed with him then it could be ok. Just end it with one and b friends with the brother for awhile. keep the benefits between you and him for a bit.
2007-01-09 12:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce the husband and forget the brother for anything but an uncle to your child
2007-01-09 11:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋