What would you do if you had a 'rebellious' teenager?

Question

Your teenager frequently swears, talks back, and you suspect that when she/he is out with friends she/he smokes pot and drinks for recreational purposes. She/he also has a bf/gf who she/he admits to having sex with. She/he also uses your Internet for porn, you know because you found it on your computer. When you confront your teen about it he/she lies to your face.

You A) Ground the child until she/he turns 18.

B) Throw your teen out of your house.

C) Have long talk with your child explaining why you are concerned about what he/she is doing. You tell him/her about the dangers of drugs, sex, and alchohol.

D) You don't do anything because you think 'Hey, I did it as a kid and I'm fine. Kids will be kids and he/she will grow out of it.'

E) You don't do anything because you ae to busy to worry about your kid.

F) You beat some sense into your teen.

G) You take away all privledges including phone, tv, and internet. You also take away their bedroom door.

H) All of the above.

I) None of the above. (if so please explain)

Or what did you do if this has already happened.

This survey is just for fun. I want to know what people's answers are.

Answer 1

boot camp!

Answer 2

alright i think i'm gonna go with the none of the above thing..here's why. Kids hate being grounded, if you grounded them and they are rebellious as you say they'll just go out and be worse. You shouldn't throw them out because that would make them way WAY worse cause then they'll do WHATEVER the hell they want. Beating could or couldn't work..but it could get you in trouble. Taking away privledges would most likely make them rebel again..Definatly not e or d. I suggest you sit down and try to understand the kid. Ask them why they do what they do. Don't freak out...act as if you're just a friend trying to figure out the 411. :D Then if the kid does tell you everything try to tell them that they're safety is important to you and what-not...and that you're scared...just tell them what you feel about it and like...compromise. That's the best i can do..ya.

Answer 3

You need to sit down with your teen and let them know what is acceptable and what is unacceptable. Once you have shared these rules...stick by them and once they are broken do what you said you were gonna do in that instance and don't back down. The computer is easy cause you can block out websites and words or you can refuse them access to the home computer. If they need to do homework or anything like that, make they do it with you on your time or go to the library. As far as bad friends and staying out. Make them accountable and lock your doors after curfew, and call the police and report them a runnaway so that you are not held responsible for any of their bad choices while they are out there. You have already raised this child. If he or she doesn't wanna fall in line...that is their bad, and in no way a reflection on you. Good luck

Answer 4

first try to....

C) Have long talk with your child explaining why you are concerned about what he/she is doing. You tell him/her about the dangers of drugs, sex, and alchohol.

then if the teen doesn't listen

G) You take away all privledges including phone, tv, and internet. You also take away their bedroom door

Answer 5

right away C) is in order...hopefully this would not have been the 1st conversation about these things. a lot of the things you mentioned are not only illegal, but engaging in some of these activities could result in death. that said, counseling is in order. parents at times are not the most effective tool when it comes to getting their kids to see the consequences and dangers of their actions. most other alternatives breed resentment, make matters worse, and in the end aren't very effective. kid and parent(s) need help.

Answer 6

Definitely C, and G.
Do you have access to a positive male role model?
Explain to them that it's your house and your rules, no compromise.

As a kid I used to get into alot of fights with the boys talking trash about my sister, and by proxy my family.
My parents laid down the law, and stuck by it.
I am a better person for it now.
Find suitable punishment, I can not tell you what that is.

Answer 7

Jesus christ, when will parents realize this? If you do that your child will ask for emancipation. You love them right? Don't do that crap. I was thisclose to emancipation a few months ago and instead decided on 1 year early graduation to get away from my parents.

If you do that, he may just request emancipation, run away or worse...

Point being, let him do what he wants. If the police knock at the door you have a right to punish him.

Answer 8

I honestly don't know. My teens were not like this. If you are going through a tough time with your teen, get some counseling, start going to church, be a good example, and stay in touch with friends. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

C,F AND G.!!!!
Ur not "allowed" to spank ur kids now BUTTTTTTTT i do! Thats how i was brought up and so they will be too! And yes the cops have been called but there wasnt a "beating" going on!
My brother and i was always told to MOVE OUT AND MAKE UR OWN LIVING if we didnt like the rules...
Contact DHS if they will not abide by ur rules!
Good luck!

Answer 10

It would depend on the child and if they had all these problems it would take more than one of these things to fix it.

You left out family counseling.....if the child is this messed up the family must be messed up too.

Answer 11

I) (none of the above) if i had a rebellious teenager, i would send them to boot camp, if worst come to worse.