Alright..I am getting married in about 6 months and I'm having a hard time with something. My fiance dated a lot before we met and I didn't. In fact, he is my first really serious relationship. When I look at his hi5 website and I see all these girls on there, it makes me feel bad. I know he loves me, but it just worries me that all these girls are contacting him. I know he's not sending them messages (i have his password) but it still bothers me. Should I just let the past be the past and let it go? HELP!
2007-01-09 11:05:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let it go. he loves you, its you he proposed to not them!
2007-01-09 11:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're looking at this from the wrong perspective.
Many people make choices based on ignorance and fear. Others, through confidence and strength. With all these other women around and all his previous relationships... why did he choose you? Not because he's ignorant, he knows what's out there. Not because he's inexperienced, he isn't. Not because he has no other choices. He does. Not because he's afraid he'll never find another. He knows he could.
So.... why did he choose you? Because of all the women he's ever known... of all the women he could ever know... of all the women he's experienced, or could experience... you're the one he wants to spend his life with. Do you understand how incredible that compliment is? Of all those many, wonderful choices, he chose you. He chose you, not over another woman, but over all other women.... He chose you not because he didn't know any better, but because of all those he knew, there were none better.
His choice came from confidence and strength, not insecurity and fear. He values you highly.
You chose him for entirely different reasons.
2007-01-09 11:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the past. Just let it go. They are nothing to him now. You know that! If you want you could ask why he still has contact info for people he doesn't talk to anymore., but don't be uppity when you ask. It will make him think your are insecure....you wouldn't happen to be insecure, would you?
2007-01-09 11:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a new e-mail address so they cannot e-mail him...I would not even consider marrying him until he did do this..If he did not have all this staring you in the face,then i doubt that it would bother you..He needs to shape up if he loves you and get himself free of their e-mails.It is very easy to get a new address...He can also delete these girls address off his list.You need to tell him what he needs to do in order to make you happy...
2007-01-09 11:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with out trust you cannot have a marraige.
But you have his password, so he is being up front with you. So you don't have anything to worry about. Make sure he knows how you feel about it. Maybe he will delete them off his site.
2007-01-09 11:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by turners_pics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's time for his past to become just that - his past. He needs to get over his trophy wall in cyberspace and concentrate on building a future with you. If he is reluctant to do that, I would seriously reconsider marrying him.
2007-01-09 11:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't let it go you shouldn't marry him. You will not have a good marriage if you don't let it go. From what you say he is true and faithful to you, I know it may be hard for you just to let it go. But if you don't you will be miserable.
2007-01-09 11:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by flredneckgal_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he gave u the passwords then he is being honest and upfront with u, the past is the past and it shouldn't bother u, as everyone had a past.
2007-01-09 11:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY LEAST BOTHER FR PAST
GO ahead AS U planned . MY best wishes & blessing to U
NOT bother .Pls keep mSMILING IN LIFE OK
2007-01-09 11:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by NAVIN S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it be in the past. as long as hes not talking to them, it fine :) that was then
2007-01-09 11:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he give you his password? if so, he has nothing to hide & the only problem here is your insecurity. work on it.
good luck
2007-01-09 11:12:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋