hi, i asked a question about my husband a few days ago, and now i saw hin phuking another girl, and he doesnt know i saw him...how do i tell him i know? should i leave him??
2007-01-09 10:59:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(o_0) i dont know wat to do!
2007-01-09 11:06:20 · update #1
girl 5! woah, how did u know we just got married a few months ago?? wow, thats so wierd...
2007-01-09 11:08:55 · update #2
person 7, i dont understan wat ur saying, but every1 still got a thumbs up.
2007-01-09 11:10:31 · update #3
just some backround info
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we started going out when i was 16, he was 19, we got married 6 months ago, and i just told him i cant have kids...i know i should have told him b4 we got married, i know i was unfair.
now, im 22, he's 25
has a super bad temper, but can be so sweet =/
2007-01-09 11:23:13 · update #4
thanks guys...im gonna leave him (i think)
2007-01-09 11:29:58 · update #5
het syug evah het tseb srewsna.
2007-01-09 11:32:12 · update #6
seti, ur answer was funny, even tho u didnt ansewer the question, u got a thumbs up.
2007-01-09 11:33:45 · update #7
Hi.
I'm a guy.
You should kick that loser in the nuts.
With stilettos.
The heel end first.
He's not a husband. He's not even a man. He's just another bozo who has no respect for women, and doesn't even have the cajones to admit the truth. Throw him out with the rest of the trash, and find yourself a good vibrator, girl!
2007-01-09 11:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ « Hybrid » ♀ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, and thanks for your answer earlier. I too have been in some really bad relationships, the guy cheating on me leaving me wondering what was wrong with me. I swore that I would never be with another person that would possibly cheat on me again. I do not believe that once a cheater always a cheater but he has to know that he has been caught and that you will not put up with it. He has to know what he will lose if it continues. I cheated on my husband because of my past, and my insecurities and fears. It was the worst mistake I have ever made in my life, and now not only am I paying for it but so is he unfortunately. But I love him and realize that he is the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. You on the other hand have to decide if it is something that you can actually forgive him for, and it is his job (once he knows that you know) to reassure you that you are the only one for him. I hope he sees that marriage is a committment and that you were willing to make that committment with him. If he cannot see what he has and does make you feel like the special woman that you are then it would not be worth the pain and suffering that he is causing you. And also the grass is not ever greener on the otherside, he will one day realize that with or without you, but more than likely with lots of regret if he does not choose to change his ways.
2007-01-09 20:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by wyllow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think telling him you can't have kids will make him go out and have an affair.
You're both young and made the wrong choice. You need to ask yourself why would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you can't trust anymore.
You have a long life ahead of you. I'm sure you can find the right one next time. No one can tell you what you need to do. Only you can decide that.
I would confront your man and tell him what you saw and DEMAND an explanation. You don't need to be scared. You're a grown woman now.
Stay strong and stand up for yourself.
2007-01-09 19:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was a huge betrayal, but before you get a divorce let him know what you saw. I suggest getting some help from a marriage counselor. I know what he did was bad, but to many marriages end, try to work it out. If you really don't think you can forgive him then leave him, I don't want your life to be unhappy.
2007-01-09 19:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Emma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg i don't know how you kept to yourself what you saw. It would have been ugly right when i first seen what was happening. You confront him let him know what you saw then you pack your crap and leave. Don't be a door mat for anyone... If you tried to forgive him it would just make you hate him. I would worry my self litterally to death trying to forgive him and make it work. There will never again be trust and your marriage will never be the same. If i was you i would forget it find soemone better
2007-01-09 19:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sherman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if he's going to cheat again but to be on the safe side, leave him. Save yourself from being hurt again. It's possible that he could continue to cheat if you stay with him no matter what he says. Talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words.
2007-01-09 19:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should leave him..... the image that you saw is now burned into ur memory and you will never forget it...Save ur self some pain and let ur lawyer tell him that you saw him when he hits him for everything that you two own
2007-01-09 19:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by babyboo 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Surprisingly U still HAVe corner fr ur hubby?WHY ?
R U NOT confident tat U CAN also hook A DECENT GUY fr urself FR remaining life ?
2007-01-09 19:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by NAVIN S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will bring the videocamera next time, then you both can get rich by selling videos on the internet!
2007-01-09 19:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
only been married a few months & he's already cheating? i take it this is not the first time, nor the last.
just lose the loser
2007-01-09 19:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋